Bridesmaids just not replying.

Your wedding is still over a year away and these are difficult times during Covid. Is it possible that money is an issue and your two BMs are financially struggling? It's hard to get excited for someone when your finances are difficult. You've mentioned that one of the BMs is your sister, I think you should call her, visit her and have a one on one with her.

Your wedding is over a year away. It honestly seems too early to be worrying about dresses at this point. Bridesmaids dresses don't take that long to come in. With everything going on with Covid, your wedding likely isn't everyone's top priority. Your girls know they need their dresses so as long they have their dress for the wedding I wouldn't worry about it. I don't understand why the salon needs to know so far in advance.

View Quoted Comment The dresses are going to be coming in late So we need to have them ordered by august. We're getting a jump for that reason!

View Quoted Comment I wish she would answer. 😑 she missed her own kiddos bday so ya know? Ugh.

View Quoted Comment It sounds like where you are getting dresses from isn't very accommodating. I have never heard of needing to order bridesmaids dresses over a year in advance. My suggestion would be to message the group and say that the deadline for ordering is August. If they don't order their dress on time that's on them.

View Quoted Comment Oh I will do that! And they are they're absolutely wonderful. The store owner is a retired older woman along with her husband. I think covid just has them on high alert and I get it! I'm more upset about my own sister not replying than the dress shop wanting a little heads up on the people I'm bringing in! All good vibes everywhere!

I think it's too early to be doing this, so they probably aren't motivated to care, especially with COVID and possible financial issues. They may not have budgeted to do the dresses this early. Even if they come in late, BM dresses do not take 10 months to come in.

I think removing bridesmaids is a quick way to permanently end a friendship, especially with your sister. If she's really having those issues, you should be supportive and helping her, not hounding her about a dress that does not need to be ordered this early. I would highly recommend talking with each person about what's going on with them and being supportive. These are people you care about. The dresses can wait.

View Quoted Comment Due to covid a lot of dresses are being late. Normally 6-8 months but they are coming in 10 months out and than you still need alterations. The fabric comes from China.

My wedding is next July and I plan to look at dresses in October but I completely agree with you starting now. Better ahead than late. Maybe reach out and one on one hang out for the day and see how they are doing during this rough time.

View Quoted Comment Exactly! That's why we're doing it now! Then my other half of bridesmaids are going in July. I have 11 😑🥴 my so is crazy and couldn't choose between his friends. I'm not mad at it just upset with my girls. Yeah I've texted them both since last Saturday they're reading it and not replying. It just is getting to the point that it hurts my heart!

View Quoted Comment Good luck with that many! Haha 🤣 seems crazy and expensive. We talked about having 8 but than decided 6 and might be 7 lol... we are still asking our bridal party so it’s been a slow processing

View Quoted Comment That's what I told him. Men don't listen. 🥴 average here is ten.

Yikes, i do see your issue here though that in general you'd like them to be more responsive. unfortunately i had to learn that some people just aren't going to be into the wedding stuff as we hoped they'd be

View Quoted Comment Yes. And I get it I do but geeze. Still sucks!

I would just go in now without her. You don't need to decide a year in advance if you should remove her. I'd also reach out to her separately about her life. If you really think she is on drugs, I assume you'd want to help her?

Have you called her?

View Quoted Comment Unfortunately with my OCD I do want to decide now, and will. With my sister there is an exception! And yes! You assume correctly tried letting her live with me then had to unfortunately kick her out, tried therapy, have tried talking to her. I've tried it all! Like I said whole other topic, and I'm not willing to talk about that. Just needed some insight. I've learned that apparently a year is way to early to start planning and having my bridal party worked out. I dont intend on doing any wedding planning through the holidays so getting everything done so early is truly going to make that possible! Thank you

View Quoted Comment Yes! She answers rarely. Usually if something is needed in return.