Bridesmaids Jewelry

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Can you ever stop? I heard what you had to say... 4 times!!! Its incredible that you continue to go on and on. To repeatedly be telling me that I am not treating my friends as individuals b/c I am looking to purchase them jewelry is incredibly judgmental and out of line. On top of that... you have no photo, no wedding date or a status on you profile. To me, that's a sign that you are not a credible source.

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I don't know if there are any around you, but I think Boscov's and Macy's both have some nice jewelry. You have some time until your wedding, so depending on budget you could have something custom made. I had my wedding jewelry made for me and the jeweler was really good about working in my budget.

View Quoted Comment No judgement here. I can assure you that the motivation was not to annoy, but to share a perspective you and others reading may not have previously considered.


As for my credibility, I hear it’s not a very good idea to post personal information and photos on the internet.

I'm not sure what people are getting worked up about here... Yes, jewelry for bridesmaids is essentially a wedding prop in order to create a uniform look, but OP said "one" of their gifts, not their only gift. I don't see the problem

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OMG! Amazing idea! I absolutely love it!! Thank you for sharing!!!

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OP also steer clear of nickel. It's a common allergy.

I will be gifting my bridesmaids jewelry for the day as well. I didn't think of it as them being "uniformed" as they are each buying a different dress in a different color. I think it's great that you want to gift it to them. I'm looking into Olive & Piper. They have some beautiful options for them and for me. I'm also looking into amazon as well. Best of luck to you!

It’s totally fine to gift the jewelry and ask them to wear it as long as you’re okay with them saying no if they don’t want to. I did it for mine. No one had a problem and I didn’t treat them like props like some say. I couldn’t have been more laid back with what my bridesmaids wore and how they looked day of. I got earrings on sale from Zales and necklaces from Etsy! I gave it to them in their proposal boxes. They were generic pieces that could be worn again. Know who you're giving it to and if that's something they would feel a certain way about. I know the two women that were in my party well so it was received with good intentions

Is this an actual thank you gift because that’s what the wedding industry promotes as a standard option or is it something that you would give them if it was any other occasion (birthday, Christmas)? Is the jewelry part of a required look that you are paying for? That makes it a prop for pictures, not a gift. Also, very few if any bridesmaids keep/wear gifted jewelry after the wedding day, because it isn’t their style or they may have a metal allergy. You would be shocked at how many bridesmaids necklaces/proposal boxes/robes, etc turn up at thrift stores and they can’t give them away.


Having been a bridesmaid in the past, I was gifted with jewelry once as the main gift. The bride was very young and didn’t think about what anyone would have enjoyed but she went for necklaces because it was “expected” according to the wedding magazines. The metal didn’t bother me but it was horse themed necklaces because that was her interest, not what anyone else liked. I kept mine for a year afterwards, never wore it except for the wedding day, and I felt bad because she was my best friend in high school but it was so freeing to get rid of it to Goodwill because it was not a gift. It was a prop. Same for covering expenses of dresses, hair, makeup, shoes, getting ready outfits. Those are not gifts.
A gift is something not related to the wedding at all but is related to the individual’s interests and hobbies that will enjoy long after the wedding is over. It’s more common to get individual gifts than to get everything matching. If one person is into books/movies, get something related to that that is not related to the wedding. Same for another bridesmaid who has a different interest, whether that is cooking, animals, crafts, outdoors, whatever. Do the same for the men. You don’t automatically give them jewelry to wear on the wedding day because most will refuse. Same for any other wedding day prop (namely clothing) that is marketed as a “required gift”, which is an oxymoron. Give them individual gifts within the same budget that fit their interests like you are shopping for Christmas. No one buys shaving kits or flasks or pocket knives in bulk as Christmas gifts so don’t do it for the wedding.

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I agree with you that gifting BMs jewelry is not treating them like props. I have been looking at Zale's too! I have been finding some great options and have been keeping my eyes out on sales.