Bridesmaids help!

Hi hi. I have done short dresses. You can find at David's bridal or order from Azazzie. They have short and long. I would say that you should all go and while there choose a color they like which I have done with a bride in the past and we chose the style. Often we matched but there were some where we had different body types and chose a dress based on our styles and bodies.

In regards to your SIL if she is on your brother's side I do not feel you have a say. He dictates what his party wears just as you dictate yours. If she is on his side and not standing with your ladies I do not feel she will look like the odd man out.

View Quoted Comment Thanks Kristen! Unfortunately, because of COVID taking them all shopping at a bridal shop is not an option. ☹️ Ive reached out to them all several times to be looking at what they like and that just hasn’t happened so I am starting to get frustrated! As far as my SIL goes, my fiancé agrees on the dress code. So now we gotta figure out how we are gonna talk to her about it.

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Hmmm...David's bridal usually allows at least two people. Could two of the ladies go with the others in a zoom call for opinions? Then they can schedule appointments to go in for their dresses? I have often been a bridesmaid where the other ladies live out of town and cannot make it and they just have the order number and order the dress. One wedding we all wore different style dresses but short as it was on the beach. The bride dictated the color of each bride but we chose a dress we liked. Could you do the same?

It is easy in regards to the SIL. Simply tell her that we are going for a casual theme and that all ladies are going to wear casual, short dresses for the affair. You understand she wants to wear a long dress but for the theme you are going with you both prefer short. Anytime I have been in a wedding party unless the bride left it up to me and the other ladies to choose our dress we usually were told at least the style or color to wear.

This is a little out of the norm, but it's what I asked my BMs to do (for my wedding, whenever we're able to have it) - short (like knee-length or cocktail-length) black dresses. I didn't care if they'd worn it before - in fact, I would prefer that they wear it again instead of buying a one-time-use dress! And a few guidelines (no cut-outs, etc) and I did ask to OK the dress before they wore it at the wedding, but really whatever made them feel their best. But I'm just mentioning it because it may be a potential solution to your dilemma of dress-shopping/getting concensus during covid.....even pre-covid, several of my BMs ordered a few dresses online and sent back whichever ones didn't work (instead of going into a store). Maybe for the SIL, maybe she could wear a flower on her dress kinda like a boutonierre (to make her stand out as a groomswoman instead of a bridesmaid). Good luck!!!

First I would figure out what color you want them to wear. Having them in random colors or not all at looking like they go together will only end up looking like a mess and your guests will be distracted by their dresses they won't be paying any attention to you and your fiancé. After you figure out a color, I would go on Azazie and see what you like. You could create a showroom and share it with the girls and let them pick from a handful of dresses that you've selected. I would have your fiancé tell his sister she can either wear one of the pre-selected dresses or she can attend as a guest. She doesn't get to control what she wears since it's not her wedding. I have included an example of a wedding where the bridesmaids kind of just wore any pinkish dress and what it would look like if you gave them no direction. To me it looks messy and like they just picked a random dress from their closest. I wouldn't recommend doing something like this at all.

For short ones, my MOH got hers off azazie.

I asked my bridesmaids to get their dresses at Macys or JCP.

I also did not have a color scheme. My girls wore black dresses with a crop top looking thing with brightly colored flowers on them.

View Quoted Comment I thought I was the only one to do this. I'm asking my MOH to choose a dress she loves, either from her wardrobe or new. Of course she's the entire bridal party so that makes things easier 😂.

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Haha! Great minds think alike! Yes, I totally love that idea...I have purchased enough bridesmaid dresses (that I have never worn again) to know that I wanted to avoid that for my bridesmaids!