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October 2021

Bridesmaids Help!

Emma, on December 15, 2020 at 2:14 PM Posted in Planning 0 7
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Hey all! Seeking some advice.


I have a bridesmaid who is a bit of a challenge. I love her, she’s my future sister in law, but she has been wicked difficult about my wedding. She wants to be the center of attention and making all decisions about her.
To start, she is NOT my MOH, and she is one of 8 bridesmaids. She was upset she wasn’t picked as MOH, and won’t let it go (amongst other things.)
My MOH suggested she plan a bridal shower, which my SIL didn’t say no to, but didn’t say yes to.....
Looking for help to either find another project for her. She wants to make centerpieces, but my aunts are all doing that for me, and she got upset again when I told her that.
Any help? TIA.

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Latest activity by MLS, on December 16, 2020 at 6:33 PM
  • Michelle
    Champion December 2022
    Michelle ·
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    She doesn't need a job beyond buying a dress and standing up with you. Don't give the tantrums any attention.
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    VIP January 2019
    Maggie ·
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    Have you asked her what she would like to plan, be in charge of, or help with? Sounds like assigning her something she has no input on is not the way to go.

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  • Michelle
    Master April 2021
    Michelle ·
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    I kind of agree with Michelle- if you cave into her than she’s just gonna want more. However, to keep the peace, how about a reading ?
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  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    Couldn't she help the aunts with the centerpieces?

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  • mrswinteriscoming
    VIP December 2021
    mrswinteriscoming ·
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    To be honest, I would not give her any project or task. The way I see it, with people like her, dealing with them is like negotiating with a terrorist – you give an inch and they’ll ask for the whole mile. If she wants to coordinate with the other bridesmaids or the MOH, sure, she can do so on her own volition, but I would not actively have her do anything (not that she is obligated to) just for the sake of keeping her quiet temporarily - it’ll only continue from there.

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  • Mrs. Spring
    Master April 2021
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    I agree with this. Don't give in, stand your ground.
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  • MLS
    Dedicated September 2021
    MLS ·
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    If it is patterned behavior I would probably ask her to not be in the bridal party like that's not the energy you need. Sorry if that's harsh.

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