Bridesmaids Help? Feeling Really Sad I Don't Have Any Friends Or Cousins

You can totally have un-even bridal parties. So don't feel pressured to ask someone just to make the sides even.

Question though, why did you stop talking to ALL of your friends when you started dating your fiance?

Holy run on sentences. I can't even start to comprehend what you're trying to ask.

I sat let it be uneven... I'm only have 2 MOH .... it's saving me money too

You dont need any more bridesmaids, sides can be uneven. And this is a great example as to why you should never shut people out of your life when you are in a relationship. Stick with the people who you are still close to and thats enough

Maybe to be nicer to people?

Stop the stop talking.

Stop thinking people are jealous.

Start being closer to your cousins.

Start talking to your college friends again.

Enjoy the bridal party you have and enjoy your wedding.

Not trying to sound like a bitch but sometimes we need to look at what the common denominator is.

Oh and do these things because it will make your life fuller, not the aisle in your wedding

It doesn't have to be even. Go with people that you want to be there. FH is having 4 GM and I was going to have 2 BMs. I became super close to a friend after moving to the area, so I asked her because she's one of my best friends.

Thanks so much for the advice everyone. The reason i stopped talking to my friends from college was they would ask me to hangout on the weekends when we both had time but since I only got to see my boyfriend on the weekends I would always be with him and my friends and i grew apart.

I'm very selective when it comes to friends, and my fiancée isn't. She has four and I have two, don't feel you need to fill a spot just to have an even number, it's fine to be uneven.

Ditto on everything Nonna said!

@Christal I'm sorry to hear that. This happened to me with my first-ever bf and I looked back and realized I had lost a lot of my friends. After that, I learned my lesson. It seems you're learning yours now and I totally understand your sadness My advice would be to have uneven bridal parties, but start making an effort to hang out with your friends more or even make new friends. Then you won't feel sad about it in the future.

Leave it. It does not need to be even.

Don't even consider it, I have an uneven bridal party (FH has 4, I have 3) and it really doesn't matter one bit. It's not right to make someone a BM just because you want an even number, there should be a sentiment behind every wedding party member you've chosen.

@katie @lyla @shannon thank you so much i feel much better i will leave things how they are and appreciate those who are in my bridal party.

I only have 3 on each side and my side consist of my best friend, my step sons girlfriend who I am really close too and my 10 year old daughter. Groomsmen are all my FH's adult sons.

I really love the smaller party because we are paying for all the attire and there is less opinion or awkwardness going around. I also don't have the issue of drifting apart from my bridal party because we are all family pretty much.

I made bad friends in high school that really betrayed me and when I called them out on it, the solution was to ostracize me. It was hard for me to fully recover from this and it wasn't easy to make new friends in college. I did make new friends but everyone I became friends with obviously had longer lasting friendships that took precedence over mine. No resentment, it was just my reality. In the workplace, everyone is kind but it's not a bff hang out with work friends crowd and that's ok. I've been with FH for a few years and I have very occasional lunch dates with the few friends that have other things going on in their lives. I'm really happy. Wedding planning puts a lot of things into light. Boundaries with family, budgeting styles with FS, and choosing a bridal party can highlight something that you might not like: that you don't have close friends like others do. And that's ok. Enjoy your wedding.

To put it simply, don't worry 'bout it. Don't ask randos to stand up with you just for the sake of feeling like you have people who are "close" to you. Stick with the plan you have. The most important thing is that you're there with your FH.

I feel your pain. I only have my best friend since 2nd grade who will be my MOH and my twin girls who are 12 will be my jr BM. Then FH will have his best friend and 2 sons. Its always been hard for me making friends and it only brings me down when we think about the bachlorette party so it has to be kid friendly. Just try to remember that you have the people closest to you with you on your day and try not to stress about the things you can't control

You guys have made me cry i'm so thankful for all the response i have received. I feel so much better and taking everyones advice.

If you are wanting to expand your social horizons, why don't you join an organization? There are all kinds of civic organizations (Junior League for example) or a knitting circle or something like that. The best advice my mom ever gave me was that your relationships with your friends are food for your soul and to make sure you feed your soul good food. Always take time to prioritize your friends and your spouse. If you feed both relationships, they'll both grow and both will always love and support you!

I think you should keep it that way. I asked someone of family members that I thought I was close with and they're the ones causing the most issues. Just keep it as it is and be happy!