Bridesmaids hate the groomsmen

It's 100000% not okay to ask your FH to kick his friends out of his wedding party because your friends don't like them. It's not their wedding. You're not asking them to date these people, just walk down the aisle with them. If they don't feel comfortable with that, have everyone walk separate.

I’m sorry your bridesmaids don’t like their pairings, but quite honest they need to suck it up and respect the fact that it’s your choice to choose them to represent you, and it’s your FHs choice to choose who he wants to stand by them.
It’s an hour out of their day, they’ll survive and if they can’t then they aren’t really true friends

Why do they not want to walk with them? Is it for an important personal reason? Personally I think they need to bear through it and do what needs to be done for your day.

I agree that they should not complain about who you paired them with. They should walk down the aisle with whoever you tell them to. If you wanted to, you can switch who is paired with who, or have them walk down separately, but definitely do NOT kick the guys out of the wedding party just because the girls are complaining about them.

Most of our wedding party is family. in some aspects i agree only because i feel like he picked these guys out of guilt kinda like 'hey i gonna be in your wedding party right' so he felt obligated. one of the guys is a bit too old and his personality is too much for alot of us including my FH. My MOH has a personal issue that i wont discuss here for her privacy, another lives in Florida and i have NEVER heard about him til recently and he doesnt even call my FH like that but I told them its one night, I wont let these guys disrespect them, they don't have to be best friends just take a few pictures and support us. i dont think we will get married in a church so they probably wont even walk with these guys. i think its the whole "this is who we paired you with in case you have to walk together' i know its MY wedding but i also want my girls to be happy. its just a little bizarre how he went about his selection.

That is odd. I would never say I don’t want to “walk” with someone. There must be a good reason?!
Best wishes.

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I can say there are some good reasons. but my sister is being a brat so that doesn't bother me too much cause if its not her man then to her its not a match and i will not accommodate her so easily as i feel she should know better and just be a good sport. but i do have an issue with 2 of the guys he picked. i didnt expect them at all to be in it

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Then I would say you and your FH need to work together. You know your FH best and if he would not be offended then I would have a conversation but if there is an important reason why a friend does not want to walk with someone I think keep it separate then. I will say that usually they do not walk in together rather they may exit together but it is you guys day and you can change it up. Maybe after the ceremony the bridesmaids walk behind you two follow by the groomsmen. For the reception I would skip the wedding party entrance. That is a nice way around it without offending.

It’s your day so it’s to be expected that they’ll suck it up and deal. It’s his day just as much as it is yours and I’m sure his side doesn’t like some of your friends either. Honestly there’s never going to be a moment where they will even need to speak to the groomsmen. They’ll walk down the aisle together and then be on opposite sides for every other part the day ex. photos, ceremony, eating etc so I’m sure they’ll be fine. They’re adults and it’s YOUR wedding.

Um what. Tell them too bad and that they need to grow up

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This is a good idea. I would never want my FH to feel irrelevant on his day. At first i was all down to cut these guys out but for what? These are the men he wants at his side and i love him so i want to make sure hes happy too. We still have some time so hopefully everyone can act like adults which i know they will and learn to just be a good wedding party for our sake. Last thing i want is the wedding planning to lose its fun and excitement because i let small things like this get to me. Thank you ladies.

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Oh I get it. I think it is nice that as a bride you are considering him because some would not. Maybe things will change and you do have time. If not then I would think of a backup. I do not think you need to hurt his feelings but I do not feel like being honest with him and maybe suggesting closer to that you think it is best to now have them walk together isn't bad. You are not asking him to remove his guys or forcing your ladies to walk with them. Hopefully things work out well.

Yea you can’t just ask him to change his groomsmen for that reason. Either change up the pairings or have everyone walk in alone

This is yours and your fiancé’s wedding. Your bridal party members do not get a say in who participates in your wedding! If they don’t like it, they don’t have to be in it. Honestly, your BM’s sound selfish. If walking down the aisle with them is the biggest issue, just have everyone walk down individually.

They don’t have to walk down together. You can let the guys walk down one-by-one or enter from aside. And the ladies can walk down one by one.

I wouldn’t even consider asking him to kick his friends out of the wedding just because your friends don’t like them. I don’t particularly like my guy’s best man, and I’m not saying a word about it because it’s his call.
On the other hand, I would not try to force them to have physical contact with someone they cannot stand. Walking near someone is one thing. Touching is another. They do have the right to refuse to touch another person, even if it’s just a hand to an arm.
I would either have them walk separately or next to each other without any touching involved.
When it comes to going down the aisle, the guys often enter first or from the side. The bridesmaids go before the bride. It’s the recessional where they typically join together, but they don’t have to!

Its awkward to kick someone out. i dont want to put him in that situation. i just would expect him to let his guys know to respect the girls. some of the girls are thinking vainly, one of the guys is older and i was upset when FH asked him just because this guy will just overpower us with his personality and be too much but whats done is done. i do want them to make an entrance together but again this one guy is a bit too much and the last thing i want is any discomfort because he doesn't know boundaries. 10 adults in our wedding party and 7 of them are grooms family including 3 of my bm so thats why its bothering me. they grew up with this guy. but i have a year to get everyone in shape. hopefully it all works out

There is actually no reason the men and the women ever have to come together, except for the rehearsal, RD, and wedding itself. And as most weddings have all GM wait with the groom , entering from the side and going to the fron to wait, it likely would not hurt for you to do it too, and not have them enter escorting the ladies. And you can have them sit with their families or SO all at a few tables, or spread out, with you at a sweat heart table. So I think, for coming up the aisle, which can be done in single or doubles, or entering the reception, you can have his guys tofether, then your ladies. BM and GM are not couples, never have to deal with each ever except 3 times, and instead or an RD you can have a groom and attendants thank you dinner or noght out, and a bride side. An RD is only one or the choices, lots of people do their half of the bridal party separately, no big RD.

View Quoted Comment You are right to let him choose his guys. But since there are options to hardly meet, you can do that too. I have been in a few where part of the WP despised the rest, and the 10 minutes standing down front was the only time together, after someone was nasty at a get acquainted cookout when it became clear, people would quit if forced to be together. And not always guy who seemed to be raised in a fraternity. Once was 2 women who had been high school friends, and all the guys from there. And after 2 drops of liquor, these gals started climbing in laps, wrapping themselves around guys' shoulders. 5 MOH and BM knew the bride from college or the military, and did not accept the friend or cousin who thought, we are the cheerleaders, and this is the football team bus, and thought we would all feel that way. But we never had to see each other close up again except in a li e for photos, the B and GM had 7 each and 4 kids, so, stayed apart. The guys likely think your women are stuck up. But you and FI should each have who you want.

Your BMs can suck it up and walk with someone they don't know or like, it's a 20 second walk. This is such a nothing burger. I wouldn't entertain their feelings on this. If they won't do it, let them choose to drop out.