Bridesmaids hair and makeup

If you’re making it a requirement, you should be covering the cost.

If you're requiring it you pay for it.

I agree with the PPs. You make it mandatory it's your responsibility.

Agree with PP, if you are requiring it, you pay for it. If you make it optional, they pay.

If you simply give them the option, and not make it a requirement for the wedding, then they can pay for whatever service they want (Hair or Makeup or Both). But if you're requiring that they get it done by your pro HMUA, then you have to pay for it.

View Quoted Comment The dress is a requirement and I'm not covering the cost?

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The dress is standard for bridesmaids to pay for. Anything beyond that that is required (ie, you want all BMs to wear cowboy boots but none of them own them and therefore have to buy them) should be paid for by you.

I agree with all previous posters.

I also agree with the PPs. If it is something that you are requiring them to have done then I think you should pay. I'm paying for my bridesmaids' makeup, because it is something that I would like them to have done. As for the hair, it's optional. If they choose not to get their hair done, I think I'll ask if they would do their hair in a certain easy/simple style to look more uniform with each other. Knowing my bridesmaids though, they'll opt to get it done.

If you are requiring it then you have to pay for it. I personally wouldn't pay $125 to get my makeup done as BM and I certainly wouldn't let the bride (no matter how much i love her) TELL me I had to pay for it and btw, it's $125.

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I personally think that's super rude too even though it's the norm and definitely expected that BM's pay for their own dresses. I've just never liked the fact that it's telling ppl how to spend their money - so I paid for all my girls' dresses.

I have politely told my bridesmaids that I won't be able to cover the costs of their hair and make up due to budget constraint and they're very understanding. I have given them an option to get it done somewhere else or if they would like to have it done by the same artist that I have hired. Majority of them choose the same artist I have booked.

The general etiquette, as stated by many, is "your say = you pay." I also have always cringed at matching BM dresses and having that be a required purchase (part of why I let my girls select their own dress...but another topic completely). I also personally think that being required to shell out an additional $125 on top of that is not something everyone can do. I know if that were the case for me, I wouldn't be able to do it!

You can leave it up to them and that means they pay but then it also means they can choose to do their own hair or makeup. You can't force them to use your makeup people and they pay for it. You could say you want it professionally done, but they can also then choose whatever location they want if they want to go to a salon for a cheaper cost.

If it is required, then yes, you are out of line. If it is optional, then no, you are not out of line.

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No, you can't say that it has to be professionally done and then not pay for it to be professionally done, even if you're letting them choose where to get it done professionally. If it's required, the bride pays, period.

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I didn't phrase it correctly. Like they can choose themselves to get it done professionally and if they don't like her price they can go to their own hair lady or a different shop. That's what I meant.