Sarah
Beginner May 2020

Bridesmaids Gifts

Sarah, on July 18, 2019 at 8:04 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 9
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Instead of giving my maids gifts that they might not like, I want to contribute to their dresses. I created a pinterest board with dozens of options in varying price ranges, so each maid can pick a dress that fits her personality, style and budget. The thought is that I would be gifting them dresses that they will wear again.

Thoughts?

Also, what is an appropriate amount of money to spend on bridesmaids gifts? This will come out of my pocket, not the wedding budget.

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  • Future Mrs. H
    Rockstar September 2019
    Future Mrs. H ·

    I think it's very kind of you to offer to contribute towards their dresses, and I like the idea of starting a Pinterest board to provide them with ideas. Just a heads up though - anything you are asking your bridesmaids to wear on your wedding day are considered props, not gifts. I would still gift them something small to thank them for partaking in your big day - best advice I can give you is to shop for them like it's their birthday. I spent roughly $50 on each of my 6 BMs

  • Alicia
    Rockstar August 2019
    Alicia ·

    I agree with Future Mrs. H, I would still give them each a small gift for the wedding day. I also spent roughly $50-60 on each of my girls.

  • MD
    Expert July 2019
    MD ·

    We bought the dresses for the girls, as that was the one thing I was picky about. I also got the gifts, and I think I spent about $70 for each one.

  • Sarah
    Beginner May 2020
    Sarah ·

    Thanks for the feedback! I'll be a bridesmaid for the first time in November, so I have never received a bridesmaid's gift. More to think about!

  • ASMini914
    Super September 2019
    ASMini914 ·
    I disagree with previous posters, I don’t think that you need to give them a gift on top of helping with their dresses. Agreeing to be a bridesmaid means you know that you will have to purchase the dress. This isn’t a “prop”, when people say that they mean the robes that a lot of brides give out.

    I think helping them with the dresses is Ed is such a lovely idea, and the amount is really up to you and what you can afford. I’m probably spending ~$100 on each girl, but everyone is different.
  • Sarah
    Beginner May 2020
    Sarah ·
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    Excellent! I was thinking a Nordstrom's gift card or prepaid cash card. I'm shelling out BIG BUCKS on things for my best friend's wedding (the dress will be $300+ after alterations) and I have no intent to make my friends do that for me.

    Thanks for filling me in on props! I wasn't really sure what that meant. I'm not giving any photo props; the cutesy matchy-matchy trend isn't really my vibe. I just want everyone to be comfortable and happy so they can enjoy the day.

  • ASMini914
    Super September 2019
    ASMini914 ·
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    I think the gift card would be an awesome idea as long as it’s before they buy their dress!

    Np on filling you in, my advice on these boards is to remember that everyone has an opinion, and while there is usually the “typical” way of doing something, not every person, wedding, and budget are the same
  • CDickman
    VIP September 2019
    CDickman ·
    The only problem with having them pick off a Pinterest board is finding the dress they picked. A lot of times dresses on Pinterest are no longer available in stores,
  • Sarah
    Beginner May 2020
    Sarah ·

    I actually pinned things straight from Nordstrom's and BHLDN. If they click on the image, the internet takes them straight to the store's website!

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