Bridesmaids Fincaial Responsibilities

If you require them to have a certain hair style and make up then you pay if not then its their choice to pay for it or do it themselves. As for bridal shower usually someone wants to throw you a party and whoever wants to host it helps chip in.

If the bride requires hair and makeup be professionally done, or a specific style, the bride should 100% pay for it. If you are making it optional, bridesmaids can pay if they want it done. I personally am paying for all bridesmaids hair and makeup (that want it done) to pamper them. My mom hosted my shower, so my bridesmaids didn't have to pay for anything. A few of them sent me gifts, which was sweet (6 out of the 9 couldn't attend due to being out of state and couldn't fly in). I have been a bridesmaid and contributed towards the shower & paid for my own hair and makeup. My bridesmaids paid for their dress (wearing whatever shoes & jewelry they want), travel to the wedding (most are out of state), accommodations (hotel), and their portion of the bachelorette party.

Yes, If you're asking (i.e. requiring) them to get hair and makeup done, you need to pay for it. If you don't care if they get it done or not you can ask them to pay only if they want it.

No, you only get a bridal shower if someone offers to host. If someone offers to host they know that they are offering to pay. You should not ask anyone to host this for you or suggest to your bridal party that they are responsible for it.

The bride should pay for hair and makeup ONLY if the bride requires it. So I'm requiring my girls to get hair done, I am paying for all of their hair to be done. I am not requiring makeup, so if they want it professionally done, they will pay or do it themselves.

The bridesmaids are not required to pay for anything except their outfit for the wedding, however, it is a nice gesture for them to help pay for the shower.

You’re responsible for hair and makeup if you’re requiring them to have it done professionally or wear it a certain way. If it’s their choice, they can pay.
If someone offers to host a shower, they’re responsible for the cost.

My girls are paying for their own hair and makeup as I did not require they get it done. They all chose to get it done so they are paying for it. All my girls agreed on throwing my bridal shower as well so they all split the cost of that.

A bridesmaid pays for her dress (chosen after the bride consults privately with each bridesmaid about her budget). Anything else the bride requires the bride pays for. Period.

(And the duties of a bridesmaid are to show up sober in the dress and smile for the pictures. Also period.)

I am letting my bridesmaids do whatever they want so it really is up to them. I know brides will pay for make up and hair though usually.

I have been a bridesmaid a few times and always paid for my own hair and makeup even when it was required, and it was fine! I think as long as you’re being reasonable and offering to pay for what you can and being aware of everyone’s budgets then you are ok. For my wedding, I am paying for their jewelry instead of hair/makeup, and also paid for pretty much my entire bachelorette party by myself, and my mom threw the shower, so I just try to be fair and not ask them to pay for too much!