Bridesmaids Duties?

My bridesmaids bought their dresses & booked travel/hotel for the wedding & rehearsal dinner Friday evening. 6 out of the 9 went to my bach party (so helped plan & financially contribute). 3/9 went to my shower (but my mom planned & paid for the entire thing). They didn't help with any planning, setting up, decor, etc. I let them pick their own shoes & jewelry, and I'm paying for their hair and makeup if they want it done (but they can choose whatever style/look they want). I've been a bridesmaid twice, that's about the amount of what I did too.

Really the only duties of a bridesmaid is to get the dress the bride wants, and show up on the day. Everything else is extra, and will depend on your bridesmaids. If you have ones that are willing to do more, and have asked what they can do to help, great!!

If you have some extra help, figure out what's taking the most time, like research, or something that doesn't really involve decision making, as that is your job (and FHs). I find that it's really great just to have someone to bounce ideas off of.

Buy the dress and show up. Sometimes the MOH gives a speech at the reception and/or holds your bouquet for the ceremony.

Hey Kaitlyn!! It’s so great that your BM’s and MOH are so supportive of you with your planning and want to help you when they can!

If you would like to read up on the ‘duties’ of a BM, then I think this article would be perfect for you to check out!

The Bridesmaid Duties Checklist Every 'Maid Needs

If both are experienced with weddings, maybe ask for a second (or third) set of eyes to go over your details and inventory to make sure you're not missing anything. All of my girlfriends are married and they been great when it came to bouncing off ideas with. And because of all of this help I'm not asking my bridesmaids and MOH to do much else aside from getting their dress.

MOH: coordinate shower and bachelorette, be second in command day of wedding.

BM#2: keep the guys in line

BM#3: help photographer if needed (she's a mutual friend)

BM#4: bring the flower girl (her daughter)

Buy the dress. Show up sober in the dress. Smile for the pictures.

She would need to buy the dress and accessories and help you out with what she is comfortable with if you need her. It NEVER hurts to ask. You can give one of them checklist duty so you don’t forget things for the big day. Maybe put one in charge of day of snacks. Co-companion for tastings. Dress opinion. Extra eyes for touring a venue. The person for people to call on the wedding day so they don’t call you. There are plenty of things. Just make a list and ask what is realistic for them.