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Just Said Yes December 2019

Bridesmaids Dresses: Helping with cost

Casey, on August 9, 2019 at 3:04 AM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 5

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About 3-4 months ago I found a bridesmaids dress for my girls that I absolutely loved - I was having difficulty finding an exact price anywhere, but saw some sources online saying 150-200. One of my bridesmaids went to purchase hers in store and ended up paying almost 300- and that’s without alterations. I feel terrible - my bridesmaids haven’t said anything (they’re all wonderful) but I already know how expensive other wedding costs will be for them, I hate that my dress is so expensive. I would change it, but several of them have already purchased theirs.

I am already paying for their hair and makeup - but I was trying to think of another way to help with cost that isn’t offensive or awkward. Any ideas??

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Latest activity by Melle, on August 9, 2019 at 10:45 AM

Just Said Yes August 2019
Molly · on August 9, 2019 at 3:43 AM
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I personally wanted to pay for the bridesmaids dresses. It isn't necessary however it is a nice gesture to say thank you. It wouldn't be awkward to pay them back maybe with a cute note that says that the cost of the dress is on you. Or you can pay for the cost of other things that they may expect to pay for. My suggestion is to do what you can to show them you appreciate them and aren't taking advantage.
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Super July 2020
D · on August 9, 2019 at 4:43 AM
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Maybe pay for alterations or shoes? I would see what the return policy is if you can or at least apologize to them and explain you didn't know it was going to be so much and see how they feel. I know if it was me I would feel better knowing it was an honest mistake rather than a costly request 😶
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Savvy August 2020
TobeWed · on August 9, 2019 at 5:34 AM
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Can you pay for the alterations or their accommodation? I'm from Ireland and here its unusual for the bridesmiads to pay for anything, we cover it all, which unfortunately means smaller bridal parties! (makes for awkward decisions) From what I can gather though it seems like the rest of the world the bridesmaids pay for their own stuff, so maybe if you could cover accommodation the night of it would help ?
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VIP December 2020
Amanda · on August 9, 2019 at 7:40 AM
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In my opinion, if they have been buying them and not complaining about the cost to you I would leave it alone. What's done is done and I think opening up to paying for things like alterations could open a can of (expensive) worms that you might not be ready to handle. How many BM's do you have? Consider that alterations can range from $75-$200 depending on location and what needs to be done. I would just find other ways to pay for things at upcoming events like paying for drinks/food at events and maybe offering to help cover accommodations at the wedding.
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Melle · on August 9, 2019 at 10:45 AM
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I agree with PP ^ if they haven't complained about it, I'd leave it alone but it would be a nice gesture if you offered to pay for shoes or something else like manicures maybe?
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