Thank you in advance for all of your help So originally I chose a dress that I thought would be fitting for one of my bridesmaids who is heavier up top. As well as my younger sisters. My bridesmaid however was concerned that it will not fit her properly. Which is understandable. So I had the bright idea, to have her try on the dress that I used for my engagement pictures. She is heavier on top than I am, however shorter than I am and more petite. According to a seamstress her dress would have to be larger and then of course altered to fit her properly. After trying on my dress I can see that after alterations she will look good, and she agrees also. However my MOH Does not agree. She brought some interesting things to my attention. For one she does not particularly agree that the picture that I will be using for my entrance to the ceremony and reception for the welcome sign should be the same dress as the bridesmaids. However she does support me with any decisions that I make. She just wanted to bring that to my attention. Both dresses are from Amazon.
Here is our engagement photos
Here is the idea for the entrance welcome sign Here is the original dress chosen for the bridesmaids
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We have yet to send our save the dates. I do not know maybe use a different dress, and take some more pictures. Technically there were some shots we did not do because it started pouring lol. Engagement photos were a DIY
I wouldn't have the bridesmaids wear the same dress as what you wore for your engagement photos. Since you are worried about the same dress looking good on everyone I would let them pick their own dress style. Tell them where you want them to get the dress the color, the fabric type (the same color might look difficult with different fabrics hence all the same fabric, and the length.
So, what, you have a nit picking person who will go, point to the sign, call everyone's attention to the fact that a brides maid is wearing it too! What a scandal❗❗❗ Anyone that obnoxious, point out that this means you like the dress you got so much, you got a variation of it for the bridesmaid choice. Wow, she will have proved to everyone that this is a dress you really love. And look rather a fool for making a big deal over nothing. ... I recently had someone make a big stink over the fact that when she chose her ideal MOH and BM dresses, a couple hundred over requested per BM price limit, 2 of us owned it. Worn once each, in 2 other countries, no guests in common, yet because worn once, she made a stink. Because every bride deserves everyone buying all new stuff. In time , resolved happily. But the underlying premise is ridiculous. There is no law saying bridesmaids dresses need, to be unique, never worn by anyone before, destroy clothes after being worn once. But over and over here on WW I am amazed to hear people have fits because one chose blue and peach, and the other stole the idea. And similar, prima donna stuff. No one else should have a wedding within weeks or months of them, or wear a similar dress , or use the same venue. And it is all so foolish. And this sign with the dress on the bride, or BM wearing that dress after, is making a mountain out of a speck of sand. So what? Who has so little on their mind that they can spend energy picking things apart , " noticing" this and that? It comes off badly for the person meanly criticizing the bride or someone else's efforts to put nice things together so that the overall impression is WoW. Nit picky little things just don't matter, and trying to make the creator look bad, by talking about it, is not a nice character trait.
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Although I do agree that certain things should be left alone. As well as anyone can use the same dress as many times as they choose. I want to defend my MOH, who is also my best friend. I know that her pointing that out came from a place of love. She knows me very well, and how I pay attention to detail maybe more than I’d like to admit at times lol. I seriously listened to what she has to say because I do value her opinion a whole lot. And I know what I choose to do she stands behind me 💯. She was simply making sure I was okay with that. As well as we agreed to disagree on that matter. I just wanted to see what others might think as well. Thank you so much for your comment as a lot of what you say is so true if not all, and can be irritating. I just know my bestie is looking out, and is coming from a place of love. And I needed help figuring if I should change dress or not. And for those that read this comment please forgive me if I left some details out. I hope this clarifies. Enjoy sweetie