Bridesmaids: Do i need to ask my Sister-in-laws?

Unless you have a close relationship with them, I wouldn’t ask.

You are under no obligation to ask anyone to be in your wedding. Only ask those who you have a strong connection with and genuinely can't imagine your day without. Do not ask someone to be in your wedding just because they asked you to be in their wedding, or because someone else wants you to include them, or because you feel obligated, or to try to improve a friendship. If you genuinely want them in your wedding party, ask them! Otherwise, you have no obligation to include them.

You don't even seem that close. You have zero obligation to include your FH's immediate family or his in laws. I get wanting to include your FH's sister, but including his in laws would be a real stretch for me

Your not obligated to have them in your wedding only your nearest and dearest should be in your wedding

Ask people that mean a lot to you, and that doesn't mean you don't care for those you don't ask. You'll just be adding problems if you add people just so they're not offended. Those tend to make the worst bridesmaids.

Your not obligated to have anybody you don’t have a close relationship or don’t want in your wedding.

You aren't obligated in the slightest. Your bridal attendants are your choice. If you future spouse wants any of them in your wedding party, he can ask them to be groomswomen.

Thanks ladies, I made the decision to omit them entirely and do other friends, and I already feel less stressed

Nope. My soon to be sister in law is currently upset with FH that she wasn't asked to be in the wedding, but i've only met her twice. Made no sense to me since we aren't close.

Like everyone said. If you don't have a close relationship with them , why would you? Nothing forced or not natural should be apart of your day.

Are you BFFs with sister in law? If not, then don’t ask her. Never ask anyone out of obligation to please others. Your bridesmaids should only be those in your current innermost social circle who have your back unconditionally.

So I have history with my soon to be sister-in-law. We new each other through high-school and we are very much OCD and stubborn so we do butt heads a lot. And sometimes I cannot stand how she acts/treats other. My mom and other family members were wondering why I asked her to be a bridesmaid. I explained to them that this a new chapter for us both and I want to extend the olive branch and be a better person towards her. We are both very close to her mom, who is my future mother-in-law, and the thought of having separate everything's because we can't get along is a flashback to bad childhood holidays. I want the best for us and out of my Fiancé's sister I am closer to this particular one than not and am basically Auntie to her kid, even though I'm not married into the family yet.


So if you want to be on good terms with them I would mull it over a little more, but you don't need to feel obligated to ask them to have a good relationship. I wanted my future sister-in-law as a bridesmaid because I know there is a lot of bonding in the time it takes to plan a wedding and thought she could really see me as who I am as a person, since I'm a little shy and not so outspoken.

If you aren't close with any of them, I wouldn't bother. Bridesmaids should be chosen because they are the nearest and dearest to the bride.