Bridesmaids dilemma!

Together, Im sure they will because this isnt the first time they break up. Now the reception is after the church but we're gonna be off taking pictures and he's obviously gonna be by himself for awhile until she gets there. I honestly don't even want him there because I've heard how he can be when he drinks, but I know that significant others have to be invited since its rude not to. Even when I asked her to be a bridesmaid I asked if her boyfriend wouldn't mind her being in a wedding she said no! But now all this happened. I just need some advice I don't want any drama at my wedding

I have a dilemma myself, my fiance and his sister got into a huge argument and told him she didn't want to be part of the wedding. Another thing my maid of honor (my sister) her boyfriend is jealous that she will be walking down the aisle with another guy.

The guy sounds a bit insecure. Grow up dude. It's a wedding.

Sorry you have to deal with immature people. It'll all work out

Sounds like he is a very insecure boyfriend and a spoiled brat. I wouldn't want him at my wedding either and if you don't want him there, he shouldn't be there. My sisters boyfriend isn't invited or welcome at my wedding because i don't like him at all. I think you should tell her you don't want her boyfriend at your wedding because of his behavior and if she then decided not to be in the wedding any longer, so be it.

It sounds like you handled it correctly by giving her the out if she wanted it.

What...? This is silly, on your friend's part. I'm sad for her that she stays with someone so jealous and controlling.

Unfortunately, if they're still together, etiquette says he is included if she's a BM. You also can't cut her.

Just hope things go smoothly. If not, just let his foolishness go. It's not worth ruining your day.

You're also still a ways out. Don't stress so much over it. Things can change between now and then.

But, if he's there, ignore any crap.

I think you should be there for her as a friend, and leave it up to her who she brings as her date to the wedding. If they are broken up and stay broken up, she should be welcome to bring a different guest. If they get back together, it'll be her issue of whether he is a jerk at the wedding or not (stay out of it as much as possible) I would just keep the name spot on your guest list for her plus one vague and hopeful that it won't be him!

This is beyond immature & this dude has major insecurities. Your friend needs to run! Is she not allowed to talk to any men in general? The aisle walk is less than a minute.

If you dont want him at your wedding he doesn't have to he there.. a wedding is a very important intimate thing, the only people you should have there is family and close friends! You are not forced to invite him and i think that it was a good decision that you made by telling your bridesmaid what you said to her

Sounds like her FH needs to grow up and stop being so insecure. She's walking down an aisle in church for 10 seconds.

You were right by trying to help the situation. Don't kick her out and yes, he should be invited. Don't let his insecurity stress you out.

Wait but if he left her over this (asshole) then you've got your loophole and don't have to invite him!

Wow...that is crazy..doesnt he know it's a wedding not a make out session..i hope everything works out for you

Thank you ladies! I just told her if she wanted out she could especially before we purchased the bridesmaids dresses this week! Hopefully she doesn't go back to his controlling arms but if she does I'll just make sure security(by law I have to have them at my venue) keeps a close eye on him just in case he needs to be removed lol!

@ Je Zomg twice the drama for you that sucks! Ughh so sorry!

@Jordan C. I know but what if they do end up getting back together then he would still be there unfortunately.

@MeettheBrowns I wish it didnt stress me out but I still does a bit, but I will try and take your advice and try not let it stress me.

This is crazy immature stuff, but unfortunately I've seen my share with planning my wedding as well. Luckily my MOH and FH's best man are husband and wife and all of the others get along with each other and have a mutual understanding that literally walking down the aisle to be separated isn't a big deal.

I do think having security there is a huge plus for you, in the event that he tries to be a total dick and start some shit at your wedding. I hope things go well!

I don't care what "proper etiquette" is or what people claim for it to be. That is your day and you're paying for it. Therefore, anyone you don't want there doesn't HAVE to be invited point, black, period!

@His Queen I like that way you think! Lol!

First of all her boyfriend has some serious insecurity issues. But honestly don't let this stress you it's your wedding and you can do as you wish!