Bridesmaids -- Did I leave 2 friends out??

Only have the people you want to support you as BMs. You don't need to have an even bridal party. The larger the party, the more opportunities for drama, and if you're not close to these girls, then don't have them as BMs. They'll figure it out when they aren't asked.

I felt the same way about two of my friends, i did not end up asking them, but i have made suer to include them in as much as i can and as far as i can tell no ones feeling were hurt.

I was in the same situation. I was leaving 1 out because fh only had 3 friends he wanted in the wedding. I called her and explained to her but she was still so hurt. I'm a softy and hate hurting people's feelings so now she's in my wedding. My bridal party is still only 4 on each side. My fh asked one of his cousins so it worked out. I would call and talk to them about it. Good luck

If you have drifted apart, I don't think they can reasonably expect to still be in your wedding. They shouldn't expect that in the first place, but especially if you aren't still as close as you once were. And don't bring it up, it only creates an awkward situation. They will get it when you don't ask.

I believe that a large bridal party is part of what makes wedding planning so stressful. Too many opinions and people who feel entitled to those opinions (no matter how dumb or selfish they are).

I would either invite all 4 or none of that group.

I felt similarly. FH only has 2. I really couldn't put just 2 girls so I asked 4 so that at least we can do 2 girls with each guy for picture, aisle, etc. However, I have 1 other friend who I really wanted to have involved. I asked her to MC. I also invited her to get ready with us, ride in the limo, and sit at the head table. It worked out that she is perfect for the job of MC. Otherwise I probably would have asked her to read and all of the above would still apply.

Maybe try that approach. Ask them to do something else, like a reading.

My life long friend could not afford to be a BM and I knew it ( they have 150k of student loans) and I asked her to be a reader, and her daughter was my FG ( $15-18 dress found at a consignment fair). I was thrilled to have her, and she was thrilled to do it.