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kenedra31
Just Said Yes November 2015

Bridesmaids but no groomsmen

kenedra31, on October 2, 2015 at 4:35 PM Posted in Planning 0 14

I am in a real pickle of a problem here. My FH was so happy and looking forward to having his friends be apart of our wedding to have them bail out at the last minute. Our wedding is in a couple of weeks and we are very upset at this. I have my MOH and 2 bridesmaid who are close family and my best friend. While he now only has his BM who is his father. I am trying to figure out what to do. I do want to make things even but his friends really have hurt him big time with this after responding and telling us yes to have them now to say no they can not make it. I really want to know what to do?

14 Comments

Latest activity by MrsA, on October 3, 2015 at 11:01 AM
  • LisaKitty
    Expert August 2015
    LisaKitty ·
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    This is not your problem to solve. Your FH needs to either find replacement groomsmen or go with just a Best Man. DO NOT, under any circumstances, remove your two bridesmaids in order to make your sides even in the wedding party.

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  • Mrs. RATR
    Master September 2016
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    Really think about whether you need the sides to be even. It's totally okay if they aren't.

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  • Julia T
    Master August 2015
    Julia T ·
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    I didn't have a even number of BM and GM. It's fine. Don't worry about it.

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  • purplekitten
    Master October 2015
    purplekitten ·
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    You don't need the sides to be even. His friends being assholes is no reason for your to do something hurtful to the women in your life who are most important to you. Plus, with your FH knowing how much it hurts that those people won't be by his side, why would he want you to suffer the same?

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  • jewles322
    Master March 2015
    jewles322 ·
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    I had 5 BMs' and my husband had 3 groomsmen. It was fine, we're still just as married.

    Yes, that stinks that his guys bailed on him, but really there's nothing you can do or should do.

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  • MrsTex
    Super October 2015
    MrsTex ·
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    You don't have to be even, we aren't. Or, you could have his BM up there with him, have your ladies walk out one by one before you, have the bridesmaids sit down in front and just your MOH stand up. That way if you want it to look even you can, but your bridesmaids still get to walk and be up there with you in some capacity. Really though, no one is going to care about it being even.

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  • MrsA
    Master October 2015
    MrsA ·
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    I have a MOH and 2 BM's while FH only has a Bestman. They will walk down the aisle together to the front and mine will walk one at a time.

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  • Delisa
    Master July 2016
    Delisa ·
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    Its okay to have an uneven bridal party. To take your BMs out of the BP would be hurtful so please don't. It really sucks that his friends are acting this way, and I hope they can work it out.

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  • 2d Bride
    Champion October 2009
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    At my brother's wedding, there was one bridesmaid and four groomsmen. No one complained. The sides don't need to be even. Much of the wedding party drama seems to occur when people become so focused on making sides match that they don't limit their attendants to people they really want to have stand up with them.

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  • L
    Devoted October 2016
    LCWedding10916 ·
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    I would have the MOH walk with the BM and the bridesmaids walk alone with both hands holding their bouquet and it will be beautiful!

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  • L
    Devoted October 2016
    LCWedding10916 ·
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    See! beautiful!


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  • Nancy Taussig
    Nancy Taussig ·
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    One of your BMs can stand on his side representing he's joining your family.

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  • Danielle
    Expert July 2016
    Danielle ·
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    There's nothing you can do. It's not even a problem I'm sure you have bigger things to worry about.

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  • MrsA
    Master October 2015
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    I also considered having a BM's stand on the grooms side so there were 2 on each side. You can do whatever you want!

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