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akshali2000
Dedicated September 2018

Bridesmaids but no Groomsmen

akshali2000, on May 15, 2017 at 3:58 PM Posted in Planning 0 7

I know it's too early to be thinking about this, but the topic randomly came up the other day with my partner and we really do not see eye to eye.

What do you do when one person wants a bridal party and the other doesn't? I always imagined my wedding day with both bridesmaids and groomsmen, but FI doesn't like the whole concept of picking special people to designate as more important than other guests (he also finds it frivolous and unnecessary and overly formal, particularly matching outfits). He says I can have bridesmaids if I want, but he doesn't want groomsmen.

Has anyone seen this? If we end up doing this, how would this work logistically in terms of reception entrances, group photos, the ceremony, and limo ride (if you had those things)? Would it be odd to have events and photos of just me, him and a bunch of girls? Or even weirder, have 5 girls in matching clothes together with other friends of his who are not 'officially' in the wedding party?

Any thoughts?

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Latest activity by akshali2000, on May 16, 2017 at 5:12 PM
  • A. L.
    Master July 2017
    A. L. ·
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    Can some of your bridesmaids stand next to you, and some next to your FH?

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  • VC
    Master May 2017
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    Uneven sides are totally fine. Ultimately 5 bridesmaids and no groomsmen is a bit extreme on sides and maybe pairing it down to 3 girls may be better.

    But at the end of the day, whoever you feel is closest should be on your side and if your FH doesn't want anyone, that is OK too.

    As for ceremony, no change. Girls can walk down the aisle themselves and the wedding party pictures can figure itself out.

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  • Mermaid
    VIP November 2017
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    That's exactly what we're doing! I'm having two ladies stand up for me on my wedding day, but he won't be having anyone as he hates the idea of a wedding party, lol. Originally we weren't going to have anyone at all, but...that changed.

    Group photos will be just me and the girls - I don't see a need to do one with me, FH, and my bridesmaids. I haven't decided on reception logistics yet.

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  • akshali2000
    Dedicated September 2018
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    So originally I kind of always figured we'd do 4-5 friends on each side as the wedding party, and then have both of our younger siblings (my brother and his sister are the same age) as the reception hosts ... but this was sort of all in my head and I never really talked about it with him so I think he just feels excluded from the plan.

    Maybe we can just cut out the wedding party idea altogether and just have our two siblings stand in instead? I'd love to do just 2 or 3 bridesmaids but it would be difficult for me to pick the 'top 2 or 3' out of my 5 close friends, so in some ways I can see how people decide to forego everything altogether. Although it's definitely not how I pictured things (I never went to my prom, so I really wanted the whole experience of matching dresses, getting ready together, group photos, bachelorette party, the whole bridal party shebang), but I guess that's what compromise means haha.

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  • Jessica
    Expert June 2017
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    I think it's perfectly fine. Have BM's walking in one by one and then u. Just take pics with your girls and then with husband. He doesn't have to take pics with them.

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  • Lynnie
    WeddingWire Administrator October 2016
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    Don't overthink this! You can absolutely just have bridesmaids if you want to!

    Reception Entrance - skip it, or just announce the bridesmaids as a group or one at at time

    Group Photos - still do all of the bridesmaid pictures, and have some group pictures with the bridesmaids and both the bride and groom

    Ceremony - just have the bridesmaids process and recess by themselves, and they can stand up next to you, stand on both sides, or whatever you want!

    Limo Ride - if this is just transportation for the wedding party, then that's what it is!

    Don't overthink it Smiley smile This is all super easy to adjust!

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  • akshali2000
    Dedicated September 2018
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    @WWLynnie - True, sometimes I over think things, thanks bunches for the advice and tips! Who knows, maybe he'll see all the fun and be jealous he didn't have any groomsmen haha Smiley tongue

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