Bridesmaids “break the ice” ideas

I would suggest having them meet at some sort of meal and then making a group chat on Messenger, WeChat, etc. Ask some of your closest friends to help you keep the conversations going!
I would also suggest inviting them over like a house party or a girl's night out. If you guys drink, playing drinking games is always a fun way to socialize.

Big group games could be fun, or hit the town. Any event would give you something to do, even if you just go to the river or something. Karaoke is usually fun, even if you just watch. Or, Google search things to do in your area and see what pops up!

You can invite your BMs out for a girl's night, but please don't be disappointed or hold it against them if they don't make it. Many people will get frustrated if you try to get them together for too many pre-wedding events. They don't need to be friends.

I would suggest relaxing and not overthinking it. If they are all local then feel free to have some sort of brunch/lunch/whatever, but keep your expectations low. They are YOUR friends/family, they don't have to be each others' friends. They more you try to encourage any sort of bond, the greater the chance of drama.

Go ahead and share contact information, should they want it. Just remember that they don't need to get along or be involved with any sort of planning. After the wedding they will ho back to being just your friends/family and will no long be bridesmaids.

Please don’t make too much of a big deal over this. I tried and didn’t realize two of my bridesmaids were way too similar with big personalities. It was a bad idea getting them together and to try to be friends; ended up being drama. Now, I just don’t care.

Please don’t try to make them be friends, if they want to be friends it will happen naturally through planning. I had a nightmare of an experience as a bridesmaid for a friend who has 8 other bridesmaids that she’s known her whole life, and me who she knew less than a year. It was hell and I absolutely despised having to “get together” but I always did it for her bc I felt like it was what she wanted. There years later and she and I don’t even talk anymore and I blame it on the wedding and her forcing me to be friends with people I’m not.

View Quoted Comment Thank you for this insight, I didn’t view it this way!

Thanks everyone, I definitely want to lower the expectation. 9 girls and possibility of drama, didn’t really cross my mind tbh. But do not want to chance it. I made a group chat just to have wedding updates but yea, don’t want to force anything.

thank you!!!

View Quoted Comment Yes I agree, I think I’ll stop overthinking haha

Glad you already decided to relax. Grown women can get along with each other for the duration of being in a wedding together without being buddies.

My fiance and I have a lot of get togethers with friends at our place so everyone pretty much met over time, and a few on both sides knew each other from highschool. Everyone gets along really well, we have a snap chat group for both sides of the bridal party, and all the girls got along really well at the shower and bachelorette. I think age plays a part. Our group ranges from age 20-29 (my brother's 20) and no one has kids so we see most of our bridal party members pretty often just because some one feels like mini golfing, getting sushi or going to bars so a couple of us go. Sooo what I'm getting at is, don't force them to be friends or take up all their time BUT if you're on the younger end and everyone has time for friends and having fun then I'd invite them out every once in a while and they'll get comfortable with each other that way! Don't worry about "ice-breakers" or anything.

I have them all on a group text. They will all meet during the bridal shower & bachelorette party, and I'm sure that environment is more conducive to everyone getting along and having fun! If they were all in the same state, a brunch would be fun. Or some kind of wedding planning activity.

View Quoted Comment Ahh this makes sense! I agree, our age frame is 25-35 so I definitely know they are all busy in their personal lives, don’t wanna be extra lol so ok thanks

View Quoted Comment I agree! Thats where my head is now. Thank you!