Bridesmaid/man drama

Sounds a bit stressful but I think you handled it very well!
I was showing one of my bridesmaids some dresses and she warned against satin because it is not at all forgiving and will stick to you if it gets wet! I plan to go with a looser, chiffon dress for that reason. I want everyone to feel their best!

This isn’t drama with the bridesmaids themselves, but I also had an attire glitch. I only have a MOH and then FH’s daughter is a combo “flower maid”. I’m essentially treating her as a bridesmaid except she’ll carry a sign down the aisle before grabbing her bouquet. So anyway, since there are only two of them on each side, we’re mismatching our main theme colors for their outfits. So I sent a list of like 30 dresses to my MOH to see if she liked any of them, and we found one that we both loved. So I told her to get it and also ordered the swatches so I could use them to coordinate with the guys. Well lesson learned because when the swatches arrived the pink one presented WAY differently in person than it had on the screen. And the other pink that might have worked wasn’t available for that dress. So I texted MOH and was like so did you order yet? And she responded all apologetic and was like no, sorry, I was busy with the holidays but I’ll go order now, and I was like STOP NO YOU’RE MY FAVORITE PERSON EVER THANK GOODNESS YOU DIDN’T ORDER. So I ended up ordering a ton more swatches and ended up switching companies to get the colors I wanted, and crisis averted lol.

We had a few small things...

1) one of my bridesmaids (a sister in law of mine now) ordered her dress and it came and didnt fit somehow so she had to exchange it and didnt get the new dress until probably 2 weeks before the wedding. It worked out though thankfully!!!

2) One of the groomsmen (my sister's husband) was on his phone watching football throughout the entire rehearsal dinner and even started cheering mid speech from my husband.

3) One of my bridesmaids left the rehearsal dinner crying after another bridesmaid pointed out someone who had the same haircut but was a woman living in a larger body, and the bridesmaid who left was self conscious of her weight being only 5 months postpartum. I think it ended up ok- I wasn't even aware that had gone on until afterwards, but that was probably the worst one.

Since we delayed our wedding due to COVID, by the time our wedding was finally approaching, two of my bridesmaids found that their dresses (purchased two years prior) no longer fit them. The color from Azazie had been retired the year before, so buying new dresses in that color wasn't an option. It took a while to find a solution, since we couldn't find a pre-owned dress for sale in the same color and in a size they could use, but then one of the seamstresses came up with an idea. We found a cheap pre-owned Azazie dress for sale in the same color and fabric, though in a smaller size. It would only be used as extra fabric, so the size of that dress didn't matter. Both girls were able to have their seamstresses use some of the extra fabric to alter their original dresses. The end result turned out perfectly - you couldn't even tell that their dresses were modified!

View Quoted Comment Wow, that was really creative thinking!!

View Quoted Comment This is so similar to me. Covid postponed the wedding by a year, but they'd ordered dresses about 8-9 months before the original wedding date. In those two-ish years one bridesmaid lost a lot of weight, one ordered her dress expecting to be heavily pregnant for the original date but was a much lower postpartum weight for new date, and a third got measured soon after giving birth and ended up getting pregnant again and gave birth to her second 2 weeks before the new date.


It was a wild ride, but everyone's dress fit in the end. I'd like to give a huge shoutout to seamstresses and the magic they do.

I let my girls pick out their own dress whatever ones they wanted as long as they were the same color. They all picked the same dress. Then they complained about the price. I even said they could change it, but no they just wanted to complain. Getting them all together to try and get some stuff done was like pulling teeth. They were always canceling and making excuses and I know people have busy lives and I wasn’t asking them to do stuff every day.. possibly once a month. The one girl never even got her dress altered and claimed she didn’t need to wear a bra with it bc she was perky enough. The MOH missed the rehearsal dinner completely. The day of the wedding the MOH leaves without telling me during pix and the photographer is asking for her and the other girls go.. um yea she left. So I call her and she tells me something came up and she isn’t sure if she will be back. So I quickly figured out a replacement MOH and walk out pairings with the groomsmen. MOH then calls me crying saying she’s sorry and still wants to come and I let her know to please hurry bc the limo will be there in an hour. So at the wedding she started her speech with “ Ex’s name never really liked me and I wasn’t sure if I liked him first” then proceeded to almost roast us and then ate and left again. In between all that chaos my flowers showed up the wrong color, I got overheated in the church and almost threw up and almost passed out on a bathroom floor and on top of everything I had my period on my wedding day. So if anyone has ever seen the movie bridesmaids I laugh at that movie bc it’s supposed to be funny but I literally went through all of that and more

I hate to hear that I have just chosen my 8 bridesmaids and one MOH and one Matron, total of 10 women. I plan on sending out a contract of my expectations of them and if they feel they cannot do it this is the time to just be a guest at my wedding. It my fiancé and my day and we want them to be a part of it. As for their dresses I will give them 3 choices to choose from ensuring I pay attention to detail of material so that they all feel comfortable and if they cannot pick one then they will be a guest. I am planning my own wedding so I can't deal with the extra stress. But you handled it pretty good.