Bridesmaid/groomsman announced elopement and pregnancy at wedding festivities.

I’m assuming telling you about the pregnancy was because she wasn’t going to be drinking at all. I think they could have waited to tell you, but I also think that unless they continued to make it a huge deal through the entirety of these events and took all the attention away from why people were there, than it really isn’t a big deal. You’re allowed to be frustrated by it, but ask yourself if it’s worth being worked up over something you can’t change now anyway.

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They did continue to make it a big deal by discussing that they were picking up a crib later that day and that they hope its a boy, discussed what they would do in Hawaii, etc., etc. She never personally apologized to me but at my rehearsal dinner saved face in front of my mother (mother relayed this info to me) that "she felt bad sharing her pregnancy on our weekend but she couldn't wait to tell me." I think that is totally weird. A simple phone call, or meeting up over coffee before the weekend would have demonstrated she couldn't wait. You would say something to my mother but not me? I was quiet towards her the day of the wedding because I didn't want her to sabatoge that day too.

Sarah gave really great advice above and I agree with her 100%.

I don’t see either of these as issues. I would look internally as the level of jealousy you’re saying she has may actually be coming from yourself. Be excited for your friends. It has nothing to do with your wedding.

I agree with the other posters that this is not something get worked up over. Be happy for them because this doesn’t affect your wedding at all. If you are not able to do so then you have to figure out how to move forward.

I’d be slightly pissed lol I’d also just let it go. Be happy for them and then tell everyone you’re pregnant at their things lol I’m totally kidding! Lol 😂

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Right?! 😂 I’m glad you get it. It has nothing to do with jealousy on my end on why I am upset. It’s that I know them better than anyone else on this forum and I KNOW it was internationally to hurt us. They even joked about getting married at our venue on the same day as our wedding 🙄

View Quoted Comment I totally get it! And that’s super annoying lol

I actually respectfully disagree with PPs....announcing this (for presumably the first time) at your couple's shower was totally out of line. Sure, her privately explaining to you why she wasn't drinking at the bachelorette could be explained away somewhat. But that's not even the only instance here. And if she was so excited to tell you personally, she DEFINITELY should have called you at least several days beforehand and then chose a *different* time (not on y'all's big weekend) to announce her pregnancy. It's like when someone proposes at someone else's wedding.....ok, it may not be out of jealousy.....but it IS totally tasteless! I think it's ok IF and only IF the proposing person asks the wedding couple beforehand, and the wedding couple emphatically agrees. Same here: IF they had approached you privately beforehand, this post would have been very different. But they didn't......they chose to announce their big news at your big events, instead of doing the respectful thing and waiting for any other day. Maybe they didn't do it out of jealousy per se, but what they did was very disrespectful and inconsiderate.

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What?!? they joked about stealing your wedding day from you too?! wow....................

I’m sure your friends were very excited about their news, and “couldn’t wait to tell you“… but they should have lol Doing it at your wedding events was really inconsiderate and an inappropriate time/place. If they wanted to make a big announcement in front of people, they should have hosted their own event to do so; not hijack someone else’s. You are totally justified in feeling annoyed by their behavior. But I do agree with others in that what’s done is done, and the best thing you can do for your own good is just let it go and move on.

I totally agree with Cece!! It definitely was inconsiderate for them to be stealing the show on YOUR day of event. I'm sure they really were excited because they must be super excited, but they should've held the excitement or shared it beforehand as that event was for you and your FH you know? You had every right to had been upset that day. Keep your head up high and focus on wedding planning and other future events leading to that day! don't let them steal your thunder! (lol!)

I wouldn't be worked up about it. Sounds like they were excited about these huge life events and assumed you would be too.

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Then why bother to even post and ask? It honestly does sound like you're a bit jealous for some reason and now saying It’s that I know them better than anyone else on this forum and I KNOW it was internationally to hurt us sounds a lot like you're trying to justify it.

Their actions were rude and inconsiderate. I would allow myself to be completely ticked off and angry about it for 15 minutes once every day and then I would do my very very best to forget it until the next day’s 15 minute allowance. Try not to let it ruin your joy.

It’s totally obnoxious but honestly, what’s done is done. Is it worth ruining a friendship over? Your wedding day is about you and your fiancé. I don’t believe that the bride and groom can truly be upstaged when everyone comes to celebrate you.


Just let it go the best you can and move on. Some people need attention.

I completely understand where you’re coming from. It’s not that you’re NOT happy for them, but this is going to be your ONE wedding day and this will be what you’re going to remember. You should have one day when you get to be the center of attention and this completely overshadows that. I get that they’re excited too, but they could choose a better time to announce their news.

It definitely sounds like they wanted to steal the moment and make it about them. It sounds like that moment has passed now, so congratulations!