Bridesmaid

I think it should be fine indoors! One of my bridesmaids ordered the same exact dress, except in mint-green. She didn't complain about it being overheating

My BM!

August is hot, they have to purchase and wear this dress. I’ve seen this same dress in sleeveless styles, is there a reason you need them to be in 3/4 length sleeves?

View Quoted Comment I just like the look of it. Nice and conservative.

View Quoted Comment Looks so nice

My girls had the same dress sleeveless and they also make it one shoulder! It was so beautiful!

my ceremony was outside, but the reception indoors and it was perfect as they were all dancing and were hot.

It's a beautiful dress

Will the venue have AC? How long is the ceremony? It could be that they had a previous bad experience overheating as a bridesmaid and are wary. My best friend had her wedding in June and we wore sleeveless full length dresses. I hadn’t even considered heat to be an issue, but it randomly ended up being in the high 80’s and the ceremony was a full Catholic mass. It was a gorgeous ceremony but there was no AC inside and I will admit I struggled with nausea because of it... If there is not going to be AC/you are planning a long ceremony it may be worth considering a different option to prevent overheating as it can cause problems.

I assume you showed them to her to get her opinion... so I'm confused as to why you think shes being rude. Did she say that in no way she would wear it, or that her opinion was no? I'm genuinely asking, sorry if it comes out wrong. They are very pretty.

I actually love the dress. But I also don’t know if it is right for an August wedding. It will be hot, and you don’t want your girls overheating, sweating, or passing out if they’re sensitive to the heat. I don’t think your bridesmaid was trying to be rude, she probably was simply trying to tell you what she thought. As the bride, you can choose whatever dress you want and all your girls should wear it without complaints. But I would look around a little more before deciding on this one, as there definitely are other conservative dresses out there that may better suit an August wedding.

She doesn't get to say no. It's your wedding and it's the one you chose. I can understand her point about it being hot, but the sleeves are sheer lace. You also said the wedding is indoors so that means air-conditioning. She may not have meant to come off as bossy as her "no" sounded. She may just be afraid she'll be hot. Maybe have her try it on and see?

It’s a pretty dress, but I agree with your bridesmaid that it will likely be hot in mid-August. Assuming your ceremony, reception and pictures are all indoors,I think they’ll be uncomfortable trying to dance. I also don’t think you should make your bridesmaids buy a dress they don’t like/don’t feel comfortable. If you’re buying their dresses then maybe that’s a different story...

Regardless of sleeves I find it to be a pretty wintery dress for a summer wedding but that’s just my opinion. Like others have said though, it’s your wedding so pick what you like.

Is where your wedding going to be particularly cool during the middle of summer?

I had an entirely indoor later evening wedding in August wedding in an air conditioned building and even in thin strapped a line light gowns we were all sweating.

Since you showed them the dress and didn’t just demand they order it, it may have seemed to her that you wanted feedback. I don’t think a bridesmaid offering “Hey it’s going to be way too hot to wear a fall/winter gown in the middle of summer” is rude.

If you don’t want her feedback, send out the style number and color and deadline for them to order in no uncertain terms. I would highly highly recommend hearing your girls out, though.

That dress is gorgeous!!! 😍
i think the lace quarter length sleeves would be appropriate...it’s not like it’s a full long sleeved velvet gown. 😀

As long as your indoor venue is air conditioned, it should work really well. I think the dresses are nice.

I feel like I found a sister. I'm from Iowa and have emerald green as my color too.

I think the tradition is the bride picks the dress - they pay for it. However, that seems rather rude to make somebody you love pay for a dress that she doesn't like. If you're paying for it - shut up and wear it. But, if she is paying, and you love her, I'm sure you can find a dress you both love. You've got time - keep looking and talking.

IT's a beautiful dress, but it really doesnt' look like something I would want to wear in Iowa in August either. There are lots of similar dresses that are sleeveless, one shoulder or cap sleeve that seem more appropriate for that time of year to me - especially in that color.

That said - as long as it fits in the budget they gave you when you asked them originally, you get to pick the dress regardless of whether they like it or not.

Maybe have her try it on at home if possible and see what she thinks. But maybe joke and say you'll turn the AC on to kind of hint to her that it's not her wedding.