Bridesmaid

I personally am a fan of letting adults be adults. If she doesn’t have a dress on the day of the wedding she can be a guest. Azazie’s production time is 3 weeks so there is plenty of time. A few of my girls ordered their dresses 4 weeks before my wedding and it was fine.

View Quoted Comment I agree with u, which is why I havent reached out to her again even though I'm itching too.
I have tje same mindset of her just being a guest if she doesn't get her dress in time.
I told her about Azazie try ons since I know it's hard for her to go to the store with her kids. But she said no, that she wants to go to the store 🤷‍♀️

I'd just hate to loose her as my bridesmaid but do no feel the need to continue reminding her but wonder if I should

I agree with Kelly. She's an adult. I would maybe drop a line while discussing other wedding details like, "And you've got your dress covered, right?" as a reminder for her of her responsibility. There's still time though, so I wouldn't put to much time into worrying about it now.

View Quoted Comment I look at the calendar and I freak out about how little time I have Haha lol

I would be freaking out also. I have timelines/ deadlines and my bridal party having their attire is part of those. I hate that you have to go through this but as a grown woman you would think that she can follow simple rules. Me personally I would give her a deadline. A wedding is stressful enough than you having to worry about her getting a dress.

Is there anyway you can get someone to watch her kids while you and her make an afternoon of shopping...Girls Day Out?

View Quoted Comment Yes exactly. And I want her with me on our day.
I just got a but annoyed that she wont even do azazie.

This is always so hard. I know it's best to treat folks as adults and trust them to get their stuff taken care of but at the same time...my MOH dropped the ball and they are permanently out of stock on her size dress after the girls agreed to matching dresses rather than mismatched. That kind of hurt my sisters feelings that now they arent all matching (shes a self conscious 14yo who would have preferred long sleeves)

View Quoted Comment Oh no! I hope she finds another dress that's similar to the one she wanted

My bridesmaid wants a specifiy vera Wang dress and Bridals bridal has a few weeks delivery time. But she has never tried on the dress so who knows if she will even like it

I had the same problem with 2 out of 6 of my bridesmaids and it definitely adds unneeded stress! I’ve reminded my girls a couple times about their robes and dresses... The other girls have everything and the two have nothing. I told them that when it comes down to it, if you don’t have a robe you won’t be in the getting ready pictures and if you don’t have a dress you can be a guest 🤷🏼‍♀️ Sometimes tough love is necessary

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Yes this!!

If she doesn't have her dress too bad she's a guest.

I am in the same boat as you. My wedding is 37 days away and my future sister in law and maid of honor hasn’t gotten their dresses. I figured they will figure it out, I have other stuff to worry about.

What does the website say for shipping & production time? I had a bridesmaid just order her dress (all others have ordered theirs) for our July 20 wedding. It said she will get it in a month.

View Quoted Comment It says 3 to 5 weeks
I just exchanged my moh dress and jt wont get here until may 16

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That seems fine to me as long as they have it 2-3 weeks prior, they can pay rush fees for alterations. It would obviously be risky that close but it's feasible.

I agree with PPs. You still have a lot of time. Let her be an adult and try not to worry about it. At most, ask her when she expects she'll be getting it. Sometimes the bride's timeline means nothing if she's trying to balance other bills and responsibilities around buying the dress.

I wouldn't hold her hand through the process. She has had more than enough time. And she knew of the responsibilities when she agreed to be in your wedding.

I am also getting married in July, my ladies went in the beginning of February to get theirs and their dresses at the latest will be in in June..a few of the dresses have come in but not all of them..

Also. My friends had someone like this in their wedding and he was dragging his feet the entire time...they had to drive an hour to the Men's Warehouse the morning of the wedding to pick up his clothes because he just didn't care at all and the clothes didn't even fit him...he never even went in for his measurements!

I too am a believer in letting adults be responsible for themselves. I have been in a huge number of weddings where 1-3 bridesmaids waited til a month before the wedding, or less if buying in a regular store, a dress of a particular color and style. I never heard of one who did not get her dress in time. As late as a week ahead, and still hemmed, pressed, ready to go when needed. . . It is hard, as a bride, to let it go. But you see dozens of things to do. They have one. Relax.😊 3 of my 4 went shopping for the first time where they were living, far from me, in NY, Penn, NJ, exactly 3 weeks before my wedding. All found a dress, 3 different stores, the same Saturday. They each emailed, with pics, within 2-3 days as they got them back from tailors, or one hemmed her own. 2.5 weeks ahead, plenty of time, all ready to go.

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Exactly this.

Well most of y’all are wayyyyyy nicer than I am. It is no way in hell that I would just let my bridesmaid be adults. They should be adults but on my BIG day everything will be perfect and I won’t be stressed. I would give her a deadline and stick to it. Letting her wait and wait and wait and then last minute she say she can’t pay rush fees or get alterations then u really gonna be mad. Sorry but I have everyone and everything on a time schedule. The last thing I want to be worried about a month or two before the wedding is one of my bridesmaids not having there dress. What if they discontinue the dress, what if they are out of stock and have to reorder and takes additional timing, what if the price go up and she can’t afford... all the things I would be thinking about. She would have to get her dress by a certain date or I would kindly let her know she is no longer needed. She is suppose to be keeping ur stress down not increasing it... sorry so long