Bridesmaid

Definitely let it go. Adding people you're not all that close to in order to have an even bridal party is a recipe for disaster. Plus, asking someone to be a "back up bridesmaid" is just rude. It's saying, "You aren't really good enough to be in my bridal party, but I'll take you anyway if needed to even out the numbers."

No. Is she the only bm? I feel asking someone will come off as if they are back up and could be hurtful. I think if she is not able to due to pregnancy then I would just be down one bridesmaid.

My brother and sister in law had an uneven wedding. I don’t think there is anything wrong with having an uneven wedding party. It’s really your preference. If you have a meaningful person that could fill her absence, then I would say go for it. But if you don’t have someone meaningful then don’t waste your time. This day is impossible to you. It’s not about anyone else but you!

*and your FH!

I'd let it go

Definitely do not make someone a “backup.” That is super rude. Just have the parties be uneven if she isn’t able to make it... nbd

Never replace bridal party members. Parties can be uneven if she goes into labor (honestly... she's probably not going to be able to make it.) It be rude to replace her: both to the "replacement" bridesmaid and to your pregnant friend.

As said above, I would let it go. It could hurt your current bridesmaids feelings and also the person you would ask to be a back up. It would hurt my feelings to be a back up. Uneven numbers is no big deal at all! You could even have them staggered (like have guys on your side with girls and same for his side) walking down and lined up next to you at the alter so it wouldn't even look that uneven.

Yeah, I would say do not replace her. If she can't make it, that's okay just let it go for this one. Uneven sides are super common and there's nothing wrong with it.

No, just have an uneven wedding party. Whoever you ask to be a backup will probably be super offended and I can't imagine they could even do anything with a few weeks notice.

Do not worry at all about having even wedding parties. I am having one bridesmaid (my MOH) because the other two women I would have asked can't come - one is getting married on the same day and the other is pregnant and due the week before our wedding. My FH is having four groomsmen. It's more important that the people who are by your side are the people dearest to you, not that the numbers match.

Plus the logistics of having a "backup bridesmaid" is a recipe for drama. Don't do it.

Definitely let it go! I get married in 3 weeks and one of my bridesmaids (who's husband is also the officiant and son is a ring bearer) is due 4 days later. It's about having the people you want the most invited to be in it. I would be offended if I was a backup bridesmaid and also if I was the pregnant bridesmaid and you asked me to step down.

I wouldn't get a back-up. If she winds up not being able to come, well, that's perfectly ok! It happens and is definitely an acceptable reason not to come. There's nothing wrong with an uneven wedding party.

How would that even work?
I'd feel real ridiculous asking someone to be a backup bridesmaid. Here buy this dress but you can only be my bridesmaid if my other one goes into labor? Or do you call your bridesmaid while she's in labor to get the dress? And hope that your not pregnant bridesmaid miraculously fits into the 9 month pregnant girl's dress?

I have 2 pregnant bridesmaids. One will be 6 months pregnant, the other will be 5 months pregnant with twins. If they can't make it, get put on bedrest, or have to be wheeled down the aisle, they are still my bridesmaids.