Bridesmaid with tattoos

I think getting long sleeved dresses is the easiest way. I wouldn’t talk to her about it.

You can absolutely look at long sleeve dresses, but if the only reason you're considering them is because you want to hide a BM's tattoos, I would reconsider. You asked her to be your BM to stand by your side at your wedding because she is one of your nearest and dearest. Her tattoos are a part of her, and they will probably be in some of the photos.

ETA ok I missed the #YOLO part, that changes my answer. Since its on a small part of her inner arm and not like a full sleeve, can you talk to your photographer about editing the photos a little if it is legible? Mine was able to edit out spilled red wine from our engagement photos

I suggest not worrying about it

Two of my bridesmaids have added tattoos... I don't care, in my mind it is such a small thing to worry about. 20 years when I look back at my pictures all I will care is that these wonderful woman stood by my side on a day to celebrate me and my FH.

If you do look at long sleeved dresses don’t tell your friends it’s to hide tattoos or you’ll be down one friend. If I were you I’d accept your friend that way she is

Long sleeved dresses are fine if that's what you and all your girls want. If you're only considering them just to cover a couple tattoos, I wouldn't. Honestly, I wouldn't even worry about her tattoos. It's not a big deal. I have tattoos on both of my inner forearms and out of 800 pictures, they're visible in probably about 10.

I wouldn't sweat it.... Your photographer should easily be able to edit the tattoos out.
However, I do have a question; If her tattoos are really something you're this worried about, why would you ask her to be in your wedding party while knowing that pictures are a given?

Unless you’re making all your bridesmaids wear long sleeve dresses then I wouldn’t order her one. If someone told me I had to change my appearance (like remove my plugs) for their wedding I would be a little upset.

Why does it saying YOLO matter? It’s her body. While she may be your bridesmaid, you can’t really dictate her covering her tattoos. If the only reason you’d get long sleeve is so her tattoo doesn’t show, that is kinda well not supportive as a friend. Your wedding day and pictures doesn’t mean you can ask her to change or hide who she is, merely because you wouldn’t like how it’d look in photos. Asking her or suggesting covering the tattoo can lead to issues in the friendship.

I have a tattoo on my wrist, and I don’t care if it shows in my pics.

I really have no problem with her having tattoos, I'm mostly trying to avoid more comments from my overly conservative family on how they'll be in our photos.

Sorry if I offended someone. This wedding planning has become more to make my mother happy than myself, and I'm not doing well with the accusatory comments right now.

I'm sorry.

Don’t worry about making your mother happy, worry about what will make YOU and FH happy. Trying to please everyone else will stress you out and take the fun out of it. So what if they make comments, it’s their problem, not yours. Having her cover them up, is like asking her to cover/change who she is. Its your wedding. If you don’t care about her tattoos showing, that’s your answer. Stand up to family and your mom. Don’t be bullied into making decisions that you don’t want.

My family is conservative, they don’t care about my tattoos, nor will they care on my wedding day.

***Not being mean, just realistic and honest.***

I wouldn't worry about it. Take charge of your planning, stop talking to your mom about wedding stuff if she's trying to make it all about what she wants.

View Quoted Comment You don’t have to apologize; some people are more aggressive than others. Don’t take it personal. 😊

My mom has already asked if I’m having my tattoos covered for my wedding. I get it, it can be a lot of pressure. Just brush her off and make you and FH happy. I wouldn’t worry about your friends tattoos. If you get a picture back where it is very obvious and you don’t like it then just ask your photographer to edit the tattoos out.

I love tattoos in wedding photos. I think it adds a little edge and personality to the photos instead of everyone looking like somebody they aren't. That might be an unpopular opinion though.

I mean by all means you can look and if you see some you like then go for it. But I would recommend checking with your photographer and seeing if they can just photoshop them out if they do happen to show in pictures.

I wouldn't worry about it offending any conservative people. I have tattoos and my bridal party does too. My sister has a half sleeve and tattoos on her back. I know they'll be visible. I don't care. I like them even if I didn't I still wouldn't ask her to cover them. I don't plan to cover mine and they will be visible as well. People are always getting offended and you can't please everyone.

I have this same dilemma. I asked a close friend to be my bridesmaid because of the person she is. I had forgotten she has a giant and IMO unsightly tattoo on her upper arm that WILL show at the altar. Of all things it’s of a pin-up girl. It’s her body. I don’t have a problem that she chose that tattoo for herself, but finding sleeved bridesmaids dresses was nearly impossible. And we settled on a sleeveless option. Now I have a dilemma that while I respect her decision to get that tattoo, I just don’t want it in my wedding pictures at the altar that will last forever...

You can ask her to look into covering them up for photos. There are really affordable products that do it. I have a tattoo on my foot and I do this for every job interview. I’m not asking my bridesmaids to cover theirs but I feel you.

View Quoted Comment Yeah, luckily hers are on her inner forearms, but she also gets a new tattoo every couple of weeks it seems, so who knows what she'll have by the wedding. Like, obviously it's her body, but she will be the only one with visible tattoos and I just feel like it might look out of place.
I've put my maid of honor in charge of the dresses, and she's been looking for long sleeve options. Good luck with figuring something out!