Cliff notes to my long story:
-My wedding is in one week! (eek!)
-I asked my good friend of 12 years to be a bridesmaid (used to be super close/roommates in college) 6 months ago and she said yes
-We've grown apart a bit in the last few years which I think is natural. When we'd meet up it was always like no time has passed
-I am really sarcastic and joke around all the time. I always have. She used to be the same way but has changed. Apparently I offended her with something I said but she won't tell me what it was?!
-She seemed distant at my bridal shower. That evening was my bachlorette party. Went to a local dueling piano bar and had a blast but she up and left without a word.
-Tried texting her after and she rarely responds (usually takes at least 24 hours to hear back). She just said she got "overwhelmed" and had to leave. Radio silence after that
-I checked in with her this week to remind her of rehearsal dinner details. Now she says she will "try" to make it. I asked if everything is ok and she starts with "I don't want to stress you out but..."
-I've known she has been struggling with depression/anxiety the last few years but she is now blaming me for her anxiety. I don't think I have asked much of the bridal party- just BM dress shopping & show up to bridal shower/bach party. Everything else I have done.
-She has told me three times now she will be there "if I want her there" but basically we can't be friends after.
-Also said she's felt this way for the last three years but yet waiting until 1 week before my wedding (after she agreed to be a bridesmaid) to tell me any of this
So what do I do? I am usually a go-with-the-flow kind of girl. Not a fan of drama. At this point, I think it would be more stressful if she was there than if she wasn't. I don't want to tip toe around her to make sure shes OK all day and if we're not friends anymore (according to her) then what's the point? Should I just cut ties now?
I've told her often that I'm here if she needs me but don't pressure her to talk if shes not feeling well. I understand mental health is important but I just don't fully understand what she's going though so it's hard. I get one wedding day, I just want to be happy and carefree on my one day.
