Bridesmaid w/ Bad Attitude

Time to stop sharing wedding details with her.

Yup, what Gryffin said. Stop telling her stuff or planning with her.

Definitely time to stop sharing details.

What arbitrary etiquette rules is she saying you need to follow?

There must be a reason why you chose her... Don't speak with her about the wedding any more and try to focus on why you chose her in the first place...

Definitely stop sharing. I'm also curious about what she's trying to have you do and what traditions and etiquette she is bashing. Just curious.

She says I 100% must have cake because "guests expect it." My family just doesn't like cake, I'm still planning cake even, but she wants me to get the kind she thinks is appropriate... I'm not *allowed* to do Save the Dates because she thinks they're tacky. She laughs at the shoes I like, the fact that I'm having a small wedding, that I like rustic things. She tells me over and over again church rules that are specific to her really strict parish and have nothing to do with the actual church rules or my parish. She basically wants to plan my whole wedding like another wedding for her, and spend the whole time gloating about how smart she is and how misguided I am. She thinks wedding coordinators are dumb and told me so when I was excited that a cousin of mine offered to be my day of coordinator and do my flowers for free (she's a professional coordinator and can you even imagine how excited I was at that generosity?!) I'm having 50-80 people and she had 320 and the whole church choir sang and played harps and crap at her wedding because she was so well liked in her church blah blah and her parents paid for the whole thing...And I'm doing mine by myself and she has just been negative every step of the way. And she'll suggest like doing all baby's breath decorations...which I think looks cool sometimes but isn't the look I'm going for and I'll tell her so, and then later if I pin something with a baby's breath bouquet, she gloats about it and how she always knows best. I posted a philosophical status on Facebook today that had to do with being disappointed in humanity and she decided it was about her and started aggressively posting passive aggressive things about people being narcissists and playing the victim (meaning me) and I saw what had happened and hid the status from her and of course I'm still friends with her husband and so she knew I hid it from her and she blocked me from messaging her (this is the second time in two weeks she has done that). She constantly talks about how my MOH and I are too relaxed to get things done and also we aren't good people because we don't send Christmas cards? My MOH was going through some really bad shit which is why I was talking more to my bridesmaid...but she actually just resolved a big chunk of it today and is excited to talk wedding, but I also wasn't bothering her because she is MOH in her sister's wedding June 18th, which is not going well. Anyways, I should probably just stop talking to her about wedding, and at all right now? Because she is going to want to bring up wedding stuff immediately after we resolve the current misunderstanding.

Oh oh oh! The big one is that my family doesn't sign guestbooks. I'm doing a non traditional one which I think will work well, but she thinks we're all horrible and rude human beings when we're really just culturally different. Not everyone's families work the same. I tried to explain to her about Irish wakes, and she about lost her mind telling me how inappropriate it is to be jovial at a funeral. Smh. Sometimes I just don't know why I try.

Check her and her attitude. Stop sharing details and inviting her to events also. It's about you and your fiance

Stop posting in social media about these things.

I had to put my margarita down to respond to this.

Stop talking to her. Next time she asks tell her "oh, I have everything under control." She asks about flowers? Oh, I have that under control. Thanks for your concern. She asks about details? Oh, I have that under control. Thanks for asking. Stop giving her details. Stop asking her opinion.