Bridesmaid upset that I didn't consult with her before booking hair & make-up Rant

You tell her that she's welcome to go locate someone to provide her those services. You're being reasonable.

Tell her she can go to her own person. She doesn't have to use your person but if she wants to be with you then that is probably her only option. If she decides to go elsewhere you can't be upset but give her the choice.

Tell her she is free to go where ever she would like to go. Getting hair/makeup done isnt a must. If she can't afford it she cant...

Did you give her the prices before she accepted? Like a ballpark? Because if you did and she accepted then thats on her. But again makeup/hair isnt necessary.

Seriously, Janeen is spot-on. Tell her she can go someplace else if the place you picked isn't in her budget.

Don't worry about it. You offered it as an option not a requirement. She is free to find someone else if she want. I think you are being very reasonable.

Say she's welcome to get her services anywhere she wishes..."as long as you are here and completely ready by X o'clock."

I don't think you really need to do anything. You've already made it clear that the bridesmaids are welcome to join you (although they would have to pay for themselves) OR they have the option to do their own thing (I assume this also means they can go to a different MUA and stylist if they choose?) ... so really your BM is just upset that if she decides to go with someone cheaper, you won't be getting ready together. It's a silly thing to get so upset about and that's all on her, not you.

You're being 100% reasonable, and those prices are the best. I texted my girls beforehand to ask if they were interested, only because I had to meet a minimum. If they didn't want it, I would have sucked it up and just went to the salon instead of having it on location. She's being ridiculous. Tell her she doesn't have to participate!

She is staying at the hotel the night before the wedding and the wedding is an hour away from any other stylist she knows so that is why she is upset. I think I would be more inclined to cover the extra cost that she couldn't afford but she text me saying I was being rude and inconsiderate of their budgets. I never asked any of my girls what they would like to pay before hand. I asked my other girls what they thought. Two opted out of getting their hair done but want their make-up. The rest are doing both and said they are fine with it since I bought their dresses.

Well, then she's welcome to go find someone at that price. Problem solved. You don't have to go to someone other than who you want just because she doesn't like them or want to pay for it. You're not forcing her to! Heck, you're even paying for her dress! She is being unreasonable and it's your day so you need to feel comfortable with how you look.

Pretty sure that you're being considerate of budgets when you're not requiring them to spend any of theirs. She has the option to pay $0. Say that's the best you can find (it sounds like a decent deal), and follow the advice of PPs.

I agree with others. You gave them the option. I did the same win my girls. 2 and my mom are only getting makeup. Everyone else is getting both. But it was their choice. As you have made it their choice.

Tell her to go and find her own person to do her hair and makeup. My sister is one of my maid of honor's, and has decided to do her own hair and makeup. She is the only one in the wedding party making this decision. I was like whatever, as long as you don't look like trash in my wedding

Agree with everyone. That is more than reasonable. You are being very generous with buying their dresses and letting hair or makeup be an option and not a requirement. She's being dramatic.

Build a bridge and get over it!! Idk what's with people. All you are "required" to do is buy an outfit and stand. You bought the dress, $10 for shoes (please tell me where!!) and she's complaining about hair and make-up you gave her the option to use. Literally all she is doing is standing, she could also go sit down...as a guest.

You bought their dresses (that's pretty darn generous), and offered an OPTION for hair and make up. She doesn't have to do it. Good lord she needs to get over herself. Just say "I'm sorry you're upset, but you are more than welcome to find someone else".

I did the same thing. We are paying for one night at the hotel, so I'm not covering hair. I emailed them before I booked the hair stylist because of minimums with an approximate range and asked who wanted it. 3/5 did, but one has a pice cut, so I knew she wouldn't want it. No one complained about the price and as you did, I made it clear that they didn't have to get hair professionally done. You did nothing wrong. As others have said, tell her that she is welcome to find another person or to do it herself.

There's nothing to "do" about it.

You told them IF they wanted their hair and make-up done there would be someone onsite. If she doesn't want to, and you're not bullying them about it, it should be no big deal. Why are her panties in a wad???

Tell her to go find her own girl.

Your BM is being a drama queen. I told my BMs they were getting their hair and makeup done and had already booked their appointments, so I prepaid all services since I didn't give them a choice. But I know that if I had given them the option, they would have either paid so we were all together or done their own. I can tell you this, the prices you got are fantastic for a bridal contract so I don't know where your BM thinks she is getting those services at those prices. It may be time to ask you MOH to step in and tell her to quit bitching cause everyone else is on board.