Bridesmaid unable to attend bridal shower. Do i still need to give a gift?

I don’t think you need to give a gift. But I f you do decide to, I would say just something small. I didn’t expect a gift from my bridal party because of other costs, but they all spent about $20 for a bridal shower gift, including my MOH who put time and money into planning my bridal shower.

I think it just depends on if you can afford it or not. If you can't, I'm sure she 100% will understand since being a bridesmaid can get expensive!

Hi Andrea! Welcome to the WeddingWire Community! You do not have to get her a gift, but it would very nice if you did! Maybe a heartfelt card with a simple, affordable item would do! But, since you've already gotten her an engagement and wedding gift, I don't think it's something you should worry about too much!

I can't imagine not giving the bride a shower gift if I'm in the wedding party, whether I attend or not.

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Yes, this.

I don't think you'd need to give her another gift. If you feel like you have to gift, do something small like a PP said.

I can't imagine the bride expecting gifts from her bridal party at all. They are already spending a small fortune on her wedding. I would send a card wishing her a wonderful time at the shower.

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Same. I would get her a gift because the gift isn't like paying a price for attendance. The gift is because she is the bride, this is her shower and she asked you to be in a position of honor for her wedding.

I will never ever understand bridal parties buying gifts for the bride. I didn't want my bridal party even paying for their own dresses but they insisted. I also refused to have a shower because I did not want gifts. Its so ridiculous to me that wedding have turned into giant gift giving events. A wedding is supposed to be about love not having 4 parties leading up to it where the sole purpose is giving gifts. Guests should not be expected to shell out that much money because you are getting married. Sorry for the rant everyone I've just been super frustrated with gift expectations. I also strongly feel you should not get a shower gift for her especially since you planned your vacation around the original date.

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I feel you. A friend of ours got married and she demanded a gift at her engagement party, her shower, AND wedding. She had a DW and my FH was a groomsmen and had to pay thousands to go to the wedding. We didn't gift them for any event but the shower. She doesn't talk to us anymore, LOL. I'm not expecting anything from anyone.

I mean I told my bridal party if they even THINK about getting me a gift I'll be upset at them lol. You're there to stand by her side, that's enough of a gift