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Bridesmaid trouble

A, on May 21, 2019 at 11:14 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 6

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I have 1 month exactly until the big day and I am beyond stressed. I have 6 bridesmaids and 1 has given me nothing but trouble. I had to tell her for months she needed to order her dress, not even getting a response most of the time. I asked her today if she had to get her dress altered and she said “I don’t know, I’ll have to try it on again” keep in mind we have ONE month. I also told her what time the rehearsal was and she said she wouldn’t be there. Didn’t even come to my bridal shower. I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to tell her she can’t be in it because she’s already bought the dress. Any ideas? 💡

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Latest activity by Alyssa, on May 22, 2019 at 8:07 AM

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Alycia · on May 21, 2019 at 11:20 PM
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Don’t let her ruin your last month of being the bride. At this point, if she shows up tell her when to walk and where to stand during the ceremony. If she shows up and can’t fit into her dress, she can’t be in the wedding. She can sit as a guest. Having one extra groomsman is not a big deal. Most people won’t even notice.
This is your time. Enjoy it to the fullest with the people who think it’s an honor to walk in your wedding. Don’t sweat small stuff that won’t make difference in the end.
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Bridget · on May 21, 2019 at 11:35 PM
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This for sure!
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Tara · on May 22, 2019 at 12:01 AM
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I recommend you take a deep breath. If she shows up and fits fine in her dress then let her participate. If she doesn’t fit into her dress then ask her to sit with the other guests.
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Cynthia · on May 22, 2019 at 12:08 AM
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I know where you are coming from.. my moh still hasn't gotten her dress altered. And all she needs is length taken off! My wedding is June 15. So she needs to get the ball rolling but I've told her plenty of times. Just let it go.. its annoying but she will only have herself to blame for not doing what needed to be done.
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Hannah · on May 22, 2019 at 12:31 AM
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You cannot control the actions of other people. As others have said, if she shows up to the wedding appropriately dressed, great. If not, that's also fine. The focus is on the the couple getting married and not the bridesmaids. At the end of the day, you will be marrying the person you love, and that should be the main focus. Everything else is minor in comparison.
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Alyssa · on May 22, 2019 at 8:07 AM
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Im currently dealing with the same situation. It's so frustrating especially since all the stress and everything you are dealing with for the wedding. Just try to not let it bother you and just thinking about if it doesnt fit that's her problem not yours. You can only control so so much. Just try to enjoy everything!
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