Bridesmaid trouble...help

I wouldn't ask someone that you aren't close with. I was maid of honor in my brother's wedding, but my his wife originally wasn't going to be in our wedding. I had someone drop our three months prior and my sister-in-law told my mom she really wanted to be in the wedding otherwise I would have left it with uneven sides. I didn't originally include her because I already had enough bridesmaids.

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Thanks for your input! I appreciate it!

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I wouldn't ask her if you don't feel you're close and you just feel obligated

Your wedding party should be made up of your nearest and dearest, regardless of familial relationships. If you're not close with her, I would not ask her to a part of your party. Standing up in someone's party is not a reciprocal event; just because you were in hers (though she asked you after someone else dropped out, which isn't a valid reason to ask someone anyway), doesn't mean she needs to be in yours.

I agree with the women above. You don't have to ask her if it makes you uncomfortable. Being a bridesmaid isn't a tit for tat kind of thing.

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You are not obligated to ask anyone to be a bridesmaid. I strongly suggest only choosing those who you truly want by your side on your wedding day as bridesmaids. If you're not close to her, you don't need to ask her to be in the wedding party.

Your attendants are your nearest and dearest supportive frinds/family. Those on your fiance's side are those he/she is closest to and yours the ones you ate closest to. If sister in law is close to your fiance, she can stand up on his side. Being an attendant is not a tit for tat thing, the fact you mentioned you and she don't get along should be the #1 indicator to not have her stand on your side. She can be a guest like everyone else.

No don't ask her. You're not close and sounds like you guys don't get along. It's your day have the people who you absolutely love and need by yourself on your big day as your bridesmaids. She only used you as a fill in for her wedding at last minute so don't feel guilty and don't let anyone guilt you into having her in the wedding. Do whats in your heart not what people tell you. And if she doesn't let her daughter be in the wedding because she isn't then I'd sit down with your brother and have a talk.

I was in a very similar situation with my fiancé’s brother and wife. I was asked 2 weeks before there wedding time fill in because her and her cousin had a falling out and I really didn’t want to but she begged so I said yes. Of course her and her cousin soon got over the fight and now they had uneven sides which they were fine with. She was a bridezilla and just isn’t a very nice person. I love my soon to be brother in law. But we chose to not have either of them in the wedding party. They will be escorting my fiancé’s mom in so they don’t throw a fit which they probably still will. But they are just overall not reliable. So you kinda just have to do what you think is best honestly!

Things change over time. When she asked you as a fill in, she may have thought she would get closer over time, so it was at least a nice gesture. Time has passed, there is no great affection between you. There is no reason at all to ask her.