Bridesmaid told No Plus One

@Page so was mine! And like I said the other bride is family! She is not related by blood to me but she has been a second sister for nearly 14 years, we've been best friends since we were 11 she thinks of my parents as second parents to her and they think of her as a third daughter. I could see how much this hurt and angered her for family to do this. I could never imagine hurting her like this I love this girl to much!! I don't understand how some brides operate I really don't.

I was a BM a couple of years ago and was not given a plus one Bc bride did not like my boyfriend/baby daddy. I was the only one and it was incredibly awkward since everyone else had their SO's. I'm no longer with him Bc he was a terrible human being but still, I was hurt. It started the downslide of our friendship and based on her actions toward my own wedding planning, and sadly, that friendship of 7 years ended a couple of months ago for good.

Why was she the only one not allowed a plus one? That's less fair than saying that no one gets a plus one.

Ridiculous to not give someone you consider one of your "closest" a plus one to your wedding- after they've spend money to be there with you that day.

I was BM once and was not given a plus one (I had been dating FH for 4 years at the time, and bride was well aware). I spoke to her about it and she blamed it on her MIL and agreed to give me a plus one. I was really hurt by it though. I walked the ceremony, had dinner, and left. Honestly, if she hadn't given the plus one I would have stepped down. I later learn she didn't give a plus one to another BM and flat out told her "Imm not giving you a +1 because I don't like your BF."

I was about 19 or 20 when I participated in this wedding and didn't know wedding etiquette but looking back she really screwed it all up.

We offered every single person a plus one. I think it's so rude not to! Most of them won't bring a guest of they aren't in a relationship and the ones that do usually give more money. People just want to have a good time and show their love and support. If that means that they will feel more comfy bringing a guest then they should be allowed to! So sorry for your bridesmaid!

My single bridemaids don't get a plus one. No one is entitled to have a plus one at my wedding.....

Rude. We are having a small wedding at a small venue so we had to be very careful with our guest list but FH's best man and groomsman are both getting plus ones and neither of them currently have girlfriends. They're important to us and we want them to have the best time possible so they should be able to bring dates of they want to! My bridesmaids SOs and children are obviously invited. I do have one bridesmaid that isn't getting a plus one... Because she's my thirteen year old niece :-P

I seriously had no idea the bridal party get a plus one. For some reason I thought that sense they would all know each other ( kind of) they wouldn't need it. Ohhhhh thanks goodness I came across this.

Our single wedding party members are not getting a plus one. Doesn't matter male or female, and they are fine with that considering they are single and everyone knows each other.

I could understand if no bridal party members got a plus one but she's the only one and she has a SO....who the bride has never met so I can't imagine it's because they don't get along.....I always just joke with her and tell her to enjoy my wedding more (she's already dreading being a bridesmaid in this other wedding) and she loves helping me with wedding plans

She's the only one not getting a plus one or did I read that wrong? Either way that's messed up

@Kristen no you read it 100% correct

Honestly...as her SO I'd be really offended. And it's sucks for her having to go to this wedding without them. You said they're family too? Honestly I wouldn't know what to do if I were your bridesmaid besides tell the other bride how crappy that is.

Robert and pascale you sound like a peach.

She should definitely get a plus one.

Apropos of nothing, but I keep rereading the post title as "Bridesmaid told no one". Like she's a secret bridesmaid, and no one knows about her.

I don't recall if I've always gotten a plus one as a BM. But I do know I was never in an established relationship during those weddings. The most recent one was my best friend's wedding in March 2013. I had only met and started dating someone in Dec 2012 and I wouldn't have taken him with me if given the chance. It felt too much too soon- especially as I was a plane ride away. I was a little surprised I didn't get the choice though. O well. It wasn't a friendship ender. I didn't know anyone else outside of her family and other BMs that I casually know. It was a great time regardless. Good food, great music and dancing. And she was kind enough to let me stay at her house since I was the only one traveling without my own family or a spouse. For my own wedding, every BM is married or otherwise attached. Not all GM are, but they'll still get plus one.

We are not doing plus ones for BP. If they are in a relationship, sure. But we are having a 200+ guest list which includes no random strangers. Same goes for our bridal party.

@MrsF2B and I read your comment as "A bridesmaid is No One" heheeee...

I'd be hella pissed if someone invited me to be their BM and asked me to not bring my SO. It's something I said in a previous thread, deliberately breaking etiquette is more aggressive than being denied something that isn't "expected".

I'd understand if she wasn't in a relationship when invites went out. It's really common now for people to try and save money by not giving singles plus 1's. I don't necessarily agree with it, but it'd make more sense.

This other bride has no idea where their relationship will be in 14 months or 11-12 months when invitations go out. Your friend could very well be engaged or have gotten married - it happens.

I also don't understand why the bride felt it necessary to tell your friend she was the "only one" not getting invited with a date. Why single her out?

From reading it looks like she does have a partner? If she does than yes its wrong. Why can't she bring her partner if everyone else is.