Bridesmaid the weekend before my Wedding

If you're a bridesmaid you need to tell her sooner rather than later so she can choose someone else to stand in and make arrangements as necessary

If you’re a bridesmaid you should tell her ASAP. But if you’re not then I think it’s okay to wait because no one knows what COVID will be like then. I’m in the exact same situation, my friends wedding is a week before mine in September and I don’t want to risk getting COVID right before my wedding. I am not in the wedding so we’re going to make a decision when RSVPs are due.

I'm confused - are you asking whether or not you should attend her bachelorette party? Or be in her wedding?

If it's just the bachelorette you're anxious about attending, that's fine - I would just be honest with her and tell her ASAP.

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Ah - good point. To clarify, I'm anxious about attending her wedding.

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Appreciate the input! Thank you

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Thanks for clarifying! In that case I would definitely communicate that to her soon. Especially if you are a bridesmaid! I would want to know ASAP if I was in her shoes, she will then have plenty of time to come to terms with it.

You should tell her as soon as possible you won't be able to make it. Does she have a role in your wedding?

If you've already made up your mind that you feel it's best for you not to attend, I would recommend letting her know as soon as possible. As someone who has personally been very conservative around COVID, still wearing a mask when I go out, and mostly continuing to live that quarantine life, I think people who are vaccinated +boosted and continue safe social practices (mask wearing, frequently washing/sanitizing hands, etc.) are pretty safe from getting sick, or getting seriously sick. Especially if your friend's wedding might be outdoors, that's even less opportunity for infection. You could try to social distance as much as possible during the wedding. Additionally, infection rates have historically been very low in the summer months, so it might not be a serious issue - COVID really is moving towards an endemic, like the flu. I'm mostly giving these suggestions because if I were your friend, I would probably feel pretty hurt if my good friend made the decision not to come to my wedding, and you may need to prepare yourself for the repercussions of any hurt feelings?