I'm in a bit of a pickle. I booked my wedding for 9/10/22 back in January of 2021, while my good friend and I were closely monitoring our potential wedding dates. I thought our date would be 9/17 but the venue only had 9/10 available. I told my good friend our date because I knew she was thinking around the same time. Well, a few weeks after I let her know the date, she told her date was 9/4, which in all fairness she had been transparent about as well. I was so excited but when she asked me to be a bridesmaid, I cried and told her I was nervous that we might not be able to make it because of all the COVID uncertainty, especially because it is out of town.
Well, her bachelorette is coming up and I'm starting to think that I will be too consumed with anxiety about getting sick before my wedding and it might be best to just agree now that we won't be going. My fiance thinks I should tell her ASAP, before the bachelorette, but I'm worried it's going to put a damper on the whole weekend.
Should I tell her we're still deciding? Should I just rip off the bandaid and confirm we won't be going?