Bridesmaid that doesn’t wear dresses

Maybe you can try asking her what she’s comfortable wearing and work around that. It also doesn’t look bad to have one bridesmaid in pants and the rest in dresses if you really want dresses

Agree with PP, ask what she's comfortable with. You could have her dress in the same outfit as the groomsmen, do something a little different, wear a jumpsuit, etc. Endless opportunities

I'm not sure what her sexual orientation has to do with anything. I'd determine a general color scheme and let your entire party choose something on their own in the correct formality.

I would have her match the groomsmen! (My MOH is non-binary so I gave her that option, but she said she’s fine wearing a dress)

View Quoted Comment Well I added her sexual orientation so people understood that doesn’t dress as a “typical heterosexual” woman does. But thanks for your input.

View Quoted Comment Thank you! Ill ask her and see what she thinks

Hey!! My best friend dealt with the same thing with her bridal party. She talked to her bridesmaid about what she would feel comfortable in, and they agreed that she would wear the same bridesmaid dress to match the rest of the bridal party. She doesn't usually wear dresses, but she actually wanted to wear one for the wedding. Maybe talk to her and see how she feels about it? If that's just not her style, she could always wear a jumpsuit that is the same color as the rest of the bridesmaids.

View Quoted Comment Thank you Eri! Gorgeous picture btw! And I didn’t even think about a jumpsuit before I posted this, and I love how it flows well with the dresses.

I would just talk to her about it and see what she is comfortable with. She may not have. A problem wearing a dress for this event. If she doesn’t feel comfortable find something with pants that would match your color scheme. If you are worried about the look I’d opt for long dresses for the other girls and it will be less noticeable!

Sorry I don't have pics of my whole bridal party back yet but here is what my cousin wore as an alternative to a dress, along with a picture of the other members of the party. I also had a guy standing on my side in a suit, so we were already a bit unconventional and it worked out just fine.

View Quoted Comment I'm not trying to pick a fight but, suggesting that people dress a certain way because of their sexual orientation is silly. There a lot of women regardless of orientation who dress in customarily masculine styles. There are also a lot of women regardless of orientation who dress in extremely feminine attire. The answers to your question would have been exactly the same without mentioning her orientation.

I'll admit that it's a personal pet peeve, it just drives me nuts when choices a person makes is explained by their orientation. Why couldn't it simply be that your friend wouldn't be comfortable in something customarily feminine?

I would definitely give her the option to wear a suit that matches the groomsmen. We have a friend who is lesbian and she will be standing on my fiance's side in a suit. It all depends what look you're going for — if you want uniformity, try to find a dress she's comfortable in. Trust me, they exist.

You could have been go with a suit that is the same color. Let her be comfortable and keep the color scheme. You could even have her wear more of a button up blouse and nice slacks without the jacket so that she is wearing the same color

I definitely vote for giving her some options. Jumpsuits are a great way to not be too different from the other girls. My friend is wearing a suit to her roommates wedding but it will be a different color from the groomsmen.

That's not the issue at all. The issue is making a generalization about things like clothing choices (hair styles, home decorating, careers, etc) because of someone's sexual orientation.

Being a lesbian doesn't mean not liking to wear dresses. So that detail was unnecessary and honestly promotes stereotypes that are hardly accurate across the population.

If desiring to see people as whole individuals who aren't lumped into a stereotype based of one quality makes me a snowflake, I'll own it. I'm a snowflake that thinks people should be seen as whole individuals, not just stereotypes.

My best friend invited her trans sister to be in her wedding party and was unsure what she would want to wear as she was still in transition and not totally "out." She ended up wearing a kilt in the family's tartan. It looked great! I would just ask your friend cause she may have an idea that works better than you planned.

I have the same situation. She is wearing a suit that’s the same color as the bridesmaids!(:

I think that if you are open to bridesmaids not dressing all alike, then in something like this talking with the individual involved is better than suggestions her. Not being comfortable in dresses may well make your friend want to wear pants or some kind of tailored suit. That does not mean that as a lesbian woman she would want to dress like the Groomsmen. She may want to dress as a lesbian woman who simply is not comfortable wearing dresses. Just as a straight woman may nit wants to wear dresses, and chooses to only wear pants, it does not mean they have any identification with actually being a man. Asking means they will clarify their feelings, and make clothing choice easier for you both. Sometimes straight or lesbian women who do not like wearing dresses, are uncomfortable with either the often bare and revealing tops, or bare legs. Or the often slinky textures of most women's formal wear. But would be as insulted as all get out at a suggestion they should look like the grooms side. And prefer palazzo or tailored pants from typical women's formal clothing shops, with a dressy but not at all revealing top, maybe a dressy jacket to match. The only one who can advise the bride wisely as the person involved. It seemed strange to me when in the Army, that when a senior officer's daughter married , he freaked about two women in plum beaded jackets (no buttons, not suit jacket style) and palazzo pants, with a shell top in the plum color. Different shades. And 3 women in strapless tea length gowns in light periwinkle, iris, dark iris purples in the same family. The Lt. Colonel knew one was lesbian, that was no big deal to him. . But he could not wrap his head around the fact that a straight heterosexual woman and a lesbian, neither of whom liked dresses, would choose different shades of the same elegant 3 piece women's pantsuit of cocktail wear type. People's ideas of what other people want to wear can easily be way off the mark. Easier to ask the people involved. Even an Army medical officer who saw all women in pants every day, straight or gay, could not get it in his head that off duty, out of uniform as civilians, all straight women didn't want fussy sexy cut dresses, and all lesbians, actual men's suits cut to their own figure. The people in a bridal party are friends or family, but they most of all are individuals, not dolls or models, and each feels different about what they are comfortable wearing.

My youngest daughtsr is a tom boy and hates wearing dresses, so we r looking into other ideas fir her as well

Ask her... she'll tell you how she feels. I understand your concerns, a few other people here seem to have taken it the wrong way. Their loss