Bridesmaid Tattoos

I think it’s inappropriate to ask. If you don’t think your friends are attractive enough to be in your wedding as they are, don’t ask them.

Personally, I feel that unless the tattoo is in bad taste (I.e. racist, insensitive, etc) the bridesmaid should not have to cover up her tattoos. She feels that they contribute to her as an individual which is why she got them in the first place (I’m assuming) and asking to hide that piece is asking to hide a piece of herself. My opinion is that there’s too much stress on making pictures “aesthetically perfect” taking away from the specialness of the day. These people were asked to share the day because of their relationship to the couple and shouldn’t be treated as props.

I made it a point to allow my bridesmaids to have their look be something they would be comfortable with and not hide any aspect of themselves, and I feel that my pictures came out more beautiful for it.

I wouldn't ask. I myself have tattoos so I know that tattoos are a part of who you are

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In the scenario, the bridesmaid got the tattoo shortly before the wedding. Do you still think it's inappropriate to ask her to cover it up? Why or why not?

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Hmmmmm....interesting perspective.

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Good point.

View Quoted Comment Yes, I still think it’s inappropriate. No one should have to change their appearance for your wedding.

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Got it, thank you for sharing.

I don’t think it’s ok. I would never cover my tattoos for someone. They’re a part of me and even if someone else found them “hideous” I obviously got them all for a reason. To me, that would feel like them calling me hideous and we may as well not be friends then.

View Quoted Comment I understand your perspective.

I have a number of tattoos and I would bow out of a bridal party and seriously reconsider a friendship if someone insisted I cover up my tattoos.

I have a tattoo and I’d be pretty offended if someone asked I cover it for a wedding. It’s a shame a bride would look at any part of someone she’s supposed to love and say it’s hideous. To me, it doesn’t matter how shortly before the wedding she got the tattoo. Not every decision in someone’s life revolves around the bride. If someone got a tattoo, it’s a lifelong commitment and it was not to ruin the wedding.

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I don't blame you.

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I don't necessarily agree with the bride in this scenario but I can kind of understand. I can also understand how the bridesmaid might be offended.

A bride should never ask a BM to cover up tattoos! That's super controlling and the bride has no right to dictate what the bridal party should do to their bodies

Brides ask for bridal hair and makeup all the time because they want everyone to be picture perfect. Going on those same lines I can see why that bride in particular wanted it covered up if she found it hideous. It was new, not there before! She felt it was hideous and those are the bride's pictures for a lifetime. Or ask her not to be in the pictures. Which is less offensive?

Me personally, if I was bothered by tattoos I would get sleeves on all the BM dresses. I'm not bothered by them. I have some that are not visible when wearing normal clothes.

I can still love people AND think they have ugly tattoos. It's personal art done to a personal taste. Not everyone has to like it. Accept it's there, yes, but not like it.

View Quoted Comment I agree that's is controlling but I can't say that I 100% disagree with the bride in this situation.

View Quoted Comment I agree with you except the part about getting long sleeve dresses. In this scenario the bridesmaid got the tattoo shortly before the wedding so I would assume the girls already had their dresses. What would you do then?

I think it's inappropriate to ask a bridesmaid to change anything about their appearance, other than hair and makeup. You should love your bridemaids forneho they are, regardless if they have tattoos, piercings, body hair, crazy hair colors, etc.

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No because her body is her business and you should want your friend there for her and not embarrassed by tattoos.