bridesmaid spread sheets

What is included on a bridesmaid spread sheet? I've never heard of these.

I have one in a wedding planning book that has check boxes for if they purchased the dress. And if they need alterations. Is that what you mean?

What kind of information are you looking for specifically? Their duties or something else?

What do you want this spreadsheet to include? The only thing that a bridesmaid is required to do is buy their dress, have it altered if needed, and attend the wedding.

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Apparently it’s a breakdown of spending for your ladies so they know when and what to expect to pay for.

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Yes ma’am, I guess this helps the ladies know when they are spending money for dresses, bachelorette trip, and other things like shower information if they are suppose to help.

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I believe it has their duties, however it’s also to help give them a heads up for future spending and what they will need to purchase or have money for certain events.

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Right! That’s what I thought until my god sister who is also a coordinator, (not mine ) told me that they should have a spread sheet because people are parents and they need to know when and where they are spending money so that there is no confusion later on I suppose 🤷🏾‍♀️

View Quoted Comment Well unless they offer to host things like showers and bachelorette parties that's one thing. But you can't just say you will spend x amount on a shower or bachelorette party for me. That's not how it works.

View Quoted Comment Mine is in the knot wedding planning book, so best I can do is send a picture. However anything beyond dress should be handled mainly by MOH. You shouldn't be involved in a shower, and you can be with a bachelorette usually though MOH takes charge.

The only expense is their attire. Their duty is to stand beside you on your day. Everything else is optional and voluntary.

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I believe it’s just a a list so they know when and where to make payments and to whom for the trip and maybe just a reminder of what they need for their bridesmaids dresses, y’all I thought I had heard it all this is the only part of my wedding I’m like what in the world is a bridesmaids spread sheet lol 😂

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Okay good I really thought I missed something!!

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That’s all I wanted these other expenses are not apart of the main event!

View Quoted Comment I would avoid doing this, and instead have a conversation with each person separately about what their budget is for bridesmaids dresses, shoes, hair, and makeup (if you are asking them to cover their own costs for each of those), and also mention what you were thinking for the timeline on ordering dresses. Make sure that whatever dresses you select are within everyone's budget, and that they all feel comfortable with the timeline for ordering them. Apart from those, they shouldn't be obligated to pay for anything else. If they offer to throw you a bridal shower or bachelorette party, then they can figure out their budgeting for that (usually, the MOH coordinates with the bridesmaids for planning both of those events).

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Just to give you an idea.

View Quoted Comment Yes and that’s what I was sharing as well. They decided a budget for their dresses and I just dont want them to feel obligated to do anything outside of that.

View Quoted Comment Thank you! Yes this is it! I couldn’t find one that just had these things on the outline! I don’t wanna make a whole big to do and make them feel like they have to do anything else lol 😂 thank you so much!

View Quoted Comment Agree. Keep this as a private conversation. It’s definitely something that needs to be discussed before you ask anyone to make sure they can and are willing to spend the money with the knowledge upfront.


Showers and bachelorette parties, which are both optional and can be very inexpensive without going all out, are arranged between the bridesmaids and not something you need to worry about.

View Quoted Comment Yes I already discussed separately prior to all of this, but the ladies would just like a list of how much everything is and when it’s due like shoes dresses etc.