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Just Said Yes September 2020

Bridesmaid Roles/titles

Squishy, on August 10, 2019 at 3:39 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 9
Hi all. I’m in the very early beginning stages of planning. I’m really struggling with the bridal party.

I have 4 extremely close friends, who will absolutely be my bridesmaids. No one cares about the maid of honor title, but each want to take on certain elements of MOH duties. And two of them would be amazing with planning things out, though they aren’t exactly who I wanted to give the MOH title to.

Any ideas for different titles? They are the most laid back group of lovely ladies, so I’m not worried about feelings being hurt about splitting up duties or titles. If anything I think they’ll be excited to each have a special title!

I know there’s maid of honor (who funny enough, I want to give that to the one I’ve known the longest but who probably wouldn’t have as much of a role in any of the planning of events because two others want to do that).

I was considering doing Maid of Honor for her, as really I’m so happy she has been in my life for as long as she has, and she is like a sister.

Then I was considering “Chief Bridesmaid” for my closest friend in adulthood (whom I’ve known the least amount of time) because she wants to plan the parties and has a calm laid back personality which is so helpful.

I have another great close friend who is so organized and an amazing leader, also very calm and laid back, who would do a fantastic job helping the above person. They both agreed they would love to plan together! Any title ideas for her?

Then I have my fourth/remaining bridesmaid. I’m not sure that she will want as big of a role in planning things as she has so much going on, but she is a close friend and has been a big part of my life just like the above 4. I would want her to also have a title.

What roles/titles have your bridesmaids had? I also want to emphasize I’ve briefly talked about this idea with all of them, and they loved it! There will be no hard feelings, jealousy, etc. They’re an amazing bunch!

9 Comments

Latest activity by Stacy, on November 11, 2022 at 12:45 PM
  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    Bride tribe leader? Ahah I don't know. Just throwing random idea out there. I just said co-maid of honor for two of my girls. I think it's also ok just to use bridesmaid for all of them.
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    Just Said Yes September 2020
    Squishy ·
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    As an update, I’m thinking the two organizers can be Chief Bridesmaid and Principal Bridesmaid (one is a teacher so it’s kind of funny/she would love it). Then my maid of honor can still be the other one who has been in my life for so long! Still just need a title for that fourth bridesmaid.
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  • Meghan
    Master October 2019
    Meghan ·
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    Do they really need titles? Can’t they all just be bridesmaids with no one having a “special title” past that? Everyone in my bridal party has the same title because I have a special friendship with them all and they all are contributing and doing things regardless of what they are being called.
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  • earias
    Champion December 2017
    earias ·
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    Just call them all bridesmaids. There is no need to try to make up titles or rank them based on what they are doing. The MOH is usually the person who is your closest loved one and that person often chooses to do extra things for the bride based on the relationship but there is no requirement they do so. Any loved one can take the lead to host parties and help plan the bachelorette party. I chose not to have a MOH because I didn't want to choose one over the other. They all worked together to plan the shower and bachelorette party.
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    Just Said Yes September 2020
    Squishy ·
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    They don’t have to have titles, it’s just a fun something extra that we all want.
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    Maid of honor and bridesmaid is really fine. Chief bridesmaid sounds like they’re playing a game in elementary school. Being a bridesmaid is enough of an honor without adding unnecessary titles.
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  • Cher Horowitz
    Master December 2019
    Cher Horowitz ·
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    I would leave it as MOH and BM. Or just have all BMs if you're worried about hurting feelings!

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    Squishy ·
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    I know it's fine! But myself and the bridesmaids thought it would be fun to have roles, so we're going to stick with the separate titles.

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  • Stacy
    Just Said Yes February 2019
    Stacy ·
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    Just found this poll and love it cause I am thinking of doing the same thing! Love your ideas. I wish I could find different titles for people in my life that are important but aren't the maid of honor
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