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Bridesmaid question?

Thelanewedding24, on October 4, 2021 at 10:06 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 9

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Im currently planning my wedding and have a set number of girls who I want as a bridesmaid. I do have this one girl who used to be my best friend in college that I imagined as my bridesmaid but now we don't really talk and I'm not sure if I should ask her to be my bridesmaid, i feel a bit apprehensive about it because we haven't spoken in the past few months and I feel like she kind of dropped me out of the blue but at the same time she used to be a good friend.

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Latest activity by Amy, on October 5, 2021 at 10:36 PM

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Jasmine S. · on October 4, 2021 at 10:23 PM
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If you haven't really spoken in a long time then it might be weird to suddenly ask.
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Michelle · on October 4, 2021 at 10:52 PM
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If they are not part of your current social circle and support system, they should not be asked to be a bridesmaid. There are many posts of brides who asked the wrong people, many of whom they have had a falling out with before planning, and they want have them down which you can’t do without ending the friendship. I would not ask this woman to be a guest either.
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Sexypoodle · on October 5, 2021 at 1:12 AM
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It’s my belief that if the bridesmaid decision takes that much of a mental tug-of-war, then the answer is NO. It should not be that draining or produce feelings of apprehension to simply select a bridesmaid. It seems like your gut is already giving you an answer. But you’re trying to convince yourself of a good reason to include her.
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Cece · on October 5, 2021 at 7:41 AM
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Yes to all of this. Your bridesmaids should be your nearest and dearest friends, not just people to fill a quota. There is no right or wrong amount of bridesmaids to have. Just have one less.
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Sarah · on October 5, 2021 at 7:50 AM
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Agree with this. If you have to debate with yourself then the answer is probably no.
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Yasmine · on October 5, 2021 at 8:11 AM
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I would choose people based on your relationship now - not in the past!
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Melissa · on October 5, 2021 at 2:55 PM
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Why have someone on your wedding that doesn't even bother being in your life?
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Ashlee · on October 5, 2021 at 4:14 PM
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I had a similar situation, I was the MOH for two of my best friends in college years ago and now that I'm getting married, I almost felt obligated to ask them in reciprocation but we barely talk now, our friendships have grown apart and while I love and care about them, they're not my inner circle, so I decided against it. They'll still be invited to the wedding though.
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Amy · on October 5, 2021 at 10:36 PM
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Omg I’m in the same boat as you. I still have 9 months til my wedding, but I fell out with my childhood bestie. We used to be super close but now we meet every 2-3 months?? and IDK what to do 😭 It’d be weird to leave her out, but we didn’t hang out for months.
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