Bridesmaid proposals quarantine style

My bff sent us bridesmaid proposal boxes via mail and when I opened mine I took a photo of me opening it and sent to her

There’s lots of options on Etsy you could have shipped direct to them! I sent bridesmaid/MOH candles

I planned a small girl’s night for the ones in state with proposal boxes. For the ones out of state, I just shipped them their boxes. Everyone recorded videos as they opened. Loved it!

View Quoted Comment I love it!! That’s totally what I want to do! But I am not sure everyone would feel comfortable during social distancing. Did you do it recently?

View Quoted Comment That’s what I will be doing as well! Was there any aspect that you would have changed?

View Quoted Comment Maybe it would have been cuter if I opened it while FaceTiming her or something so she could see it live

View Quoted Comment I did it a couple weeks ago, kept it all under 10 people. I let everyone know that I was thinking of having a girls night and made sure everyone was comfortable with it prior to planning it so it worked out!

View Quoted Comment Awesome! I love it! I hope to be able to do it too. I was even thinking of doing it outside as well which would help too! Thank you for sharing, and congratulations on your engagement!

I mailed puzzles I bought on Zazzle to my bridesmaids. I had to cover the front of the box with paper.

My favorite as a BM or MOH, is no gifts, no surprises. Over the phone or in person, to be asked. Opening presents or surprises makes it hard saying no, even when you know you can't do it. Pressure. And it makes it less likely you will talk about the things that will make or break your decision. So things either keep coming up problems, or weeks or months after saying yes, you have to change to no. It becomes humiliating for the bride, and the person involved. That, and not asking too early is good. I learned the hard way, any time a bride asks with no specific date on the calendar, or place, that she will later pick the day your sister is getting married, or you have professional exams, and suddenly you are the one messing with the bride's date. So 9 months to a year at earliest, with a date and a place, and a willingness to talk dates, schedules, and what you have in mind, talk about it. Personally or by phone call. Most reasons for not doing it are schedule conflicts ( including pregnancy/no travel times, or moving, or school or job changes. Things you usually are not sure of until 9 months or less. And big money crunch times. And serious illness of a family member, or you or SO needing surgery, or someone closer lke brother, sister, parent marrying the same weekend. So make it close enough to know these things, and a discussion of expectations, and your friend or relative who says Yes, is more likely to still be with you come wedding day.

I had 9 bridesmaids and 8 were out of state. I sent them jewelry boxes in the mail with liquor shooters, nail polish, and hair ties with a card asking them to be my bridesmaids!

View Quoted Comment That is such a cute idea!!

View Quoted Comment I love it! I the three out of state for me are the ones I’m trying to surprise the most lol which is the hardest!

View Quoted Comment Thank you for such a thoughtful response! I totally can see how that intimate conversation can really benefit both parties long-term, especially during such a chaotic time right now. I definitely want to make sure that no one feels pressured and that they have the option of saying no. I feel like trends today put a lot of pressure on the bridesmaids to say yes. Thank you for your kind input!

View Quoted Comment That sounds so ideal! Especially since the majority of mine are here in California, I would want them to feel that special moment and the excitement that I feel and getting ready to ask them! Thank you for sharing!

View Quoted Comment How cute! I didn’t even think of candles! I bet they love those❤️