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Just Said Yes September 2021

Bridesmaid Proposal

Mindy, on January 2, 2020 at 7:48 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 8

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Can anyone give me advice on who is to pay for the lunch/ dinner when asking the bridesmaids to be in my wedding party? I bought everyone a small gift, bracelets that say “I couldn’t tie the knot without you” and it’s a knotted sterling silver bracelet. I have 6 girls in my party. I’m not trying to be cheap but I just bought a house and will most likely pay towards hair and make up if they want. But I’m not sure if I should pay for everyone’s meals too? Any advice or what is the etiquette. Thanks.

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Latest activity by MrsD, on January 3, 2020 at 11:29 AM

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Taylor · on January 2, 2020 at 7:51 PM
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No, I don't think you need to pay for it! Just text everyone and say "Hey would y'all want to go grab lunch or a drink this week?" You wouldn't be expected to pay for them if you were just meeting up for a meal. I don't think you should lose any sleep over it!
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Master November 2020
Kristen · on January 2, 2020 at 8:31 PM
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Yeah that is a new thing but there is no etiquette on who pays, esp if you are giving them a gift. When I gave my MOH her box we met up for brunch and we paid our own way. Good luck and show us pics hee hee.
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Beginner June 2021
Rylee · on January 2, 2020 at 9:24 PM
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I feel if your inviting them - you pay. I had 6 bridesmaids as well and just got of college. I would do a pizza place and do a few pizzas or something cheap like that.

Or ask them to drinks instead and buy a round of drinks.
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Devoted October 2020
Kelsey · on January 2, 2020 at 10:09 PM
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I went out to lunch or dinner with 2 of my bridesmaids and they actually ended up paying for me lol! No expectations there
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Master July 2019
Hannah · on January 2, 2020 at 10:19 PM
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I think you can go either way. I had a small gift and took each girl out for coffee or lunch individually and paid, except for 1 who was out of state and not visiting anytime soon. I shipped her the gift as a surprise.
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January 2019
MOB So Cal · on January 2, 2020 at 11:45 PM
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I always feel like if I'm inviting others, then there is an expectation that I pay. There is absolutely no requirement to take them all out, but if you ask them to do so, then I think you should be prepared to pick up the tab. If they offer to pay, that's fine. If you can't afford to take them out, then you should just send the gifts to them or invite them to your home and make a simple meal for them. Taking them out isn't a requirement.
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Super August 2021
Dierdra · on January 3, 2020 at 4:26 AM
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I just met up with them at a coffee shops. Mine were individual meet ups and everyone got their own coffee. It was also one on one catch up time.
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MrsD · on January 3, 2020 at 11:29 AM
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If you are hosting the meal, you should pay. You certainly don't have to host a meal, you can just call and ask them. Or have them over to your house for snacks & drinks, but not a full meal.
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