Bridesmaid proposal - not located in the same state

Have them open it at the same time
On a zoom call

Include a hand written note and a picture of the two of you together (if you have any)

Ask over a phone call or video chat. No need to spend money shipping boxes

I mailed my bridesmaid box to my sister who lives 20 hours from me. It was still special and she loved it!

One of my bridesmaid lives out of state! I’m making sure she has me on FaceTime before opening up her box

Skip it. It is a totally unnecessary new trend that a lot of people find puts pressure on the one being asked. And how embarrassing if 2-3 say No. I hate it when brides do it to me. Wait until the very end, and give one substantial, individual gift, picked for each person specifically. Don't be spend your budget on lots of little presents, proposal gifts or robes or wedding things.

I asked my bridesmaids during covid, one of my bridesmaids lives about 4 hours from me, so I sent her the box and face-timed her when she opened it. Definitely not ideal but it worked!

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I agree with Judith. It could strum up trouble if your pals feel obligated and don't really want to be your BM. I would call each of them first and ask them to think about it first and then follow up with a zoom, and if they say, no - it's all okay. If they say yes - then celebrate. Skip the gifts for now. You can gift your bridal party during the rehearsal dinner. Best of luck & love!!

Most of my bridesmaids live out of state, so I mailed each one a customized puzzle asking them to be a bridesmaid! They were inexpensive and fun for them to put together, yet shouldn't have put any pressure on anyone to accept. You could always ask them over video chat, and then mail the boxes once they accept! Or, you could mail them a cute card that asks them to send you a picture of them with the card if they accept.

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Agree with this