Bridesmaid proposal ideas?

Have a regular conversation how you normally do, if that is over the phone/text, Zoom, or a coffee date. Ask them at that point. Skip the gifts because, in addition to being an expensive Pinterest trend, they pressure your friends into saying yes without any consideration whether they can emotionally or financially invest in the role. Save the gifts for thank yous on the wedding day that are not wedding related and fit their personal interests. Anything with names/date/titles will get donated to Goodwill.

Totally agree with Michelle. It’s either a face to face or a phone call. A text seems very tacky. Save the gifts for closer to the wedding.

I purchased scratch off cards on Etsy and put a nice handwritten note inside asking them. The cards were beautiful quality and my friends were really excited to receive them. I think something sweet and from your heart is the way to go, whether talking in person, on the phone or a nice note.

Since my bridesmaids are all over the country, I mailed each of them a customized puzzle that asked them to be a bridesmaid. I didn't want to ask over the phone, but because of the distance, I didn't have the opportunity to ask each one in person. The puzzles were inexpensive and, based on their feedback, a fun way for them to be asked.


I wouldn't ask over a text - instead, a phone call or an in-person conversation would be ideal! I would avoid any kind of expensive gift, just because that can sometimes put pressure on someone to say yes, and you can save it instead to give them "thank you" gifts at the wedding. If you wanted to give them something at the time you ask them to be bridesmaids, you could always find something inexpensive to give to each of them, like a cute card, or a keychain, or a picture and a note, or something along those lines!

I called my sister the night my husband proposed to tell her we were engaged (she was in on it and helped him pick the ring) and asked her to be my MoH in the same conversation. It may have been a Zoom call, now that I think about it... I ended up not having any other bridesmaids, so that was it!



Gifts aren't really necessary but sound like they could be fun. Keep it simple if you do go that route. If one of them wants to turn you down for some reason then you don't want to accidentally make them feel pressured to agree, then for it not to work out. A phone call, video call, or casual lunch/dinner would be a perfect time to ask but I would avoid asking over text.

I put together a little box. I got a “will you be my bridesmaid/MOH” card off Etsy. Got them jewelry for the wedding (I know them so it’s not something they’d be offended by), some chocolates, a mug with their initial on it and a Diamond ballpoint pen off Amazon. Nothing crazy

View Quoted Comment I LOVE this! I just ordered mine!!!

I ordered cute cards off Zola and sent them to my bridesmaids. They're all long-time friends who knew they were in my wedding party before I even got engaged. We also all live states away from each other so doing it in person wasn't an option.

The card said "He's marrying me, but he's stuck with us." I also wrote my MOH a nice note and sent a small gift with hers. Everyone else will be getting gifts on the wedding day while getting ready.