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Kealey
Dedicated April 2019

Bridesmaid Problems

Kealey , on December 14, 2018 at 10:23 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 20
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*Bit of a rant* this post is going to be longer than anything I have ever posted.

So I am only having two girls in my bridal party, my FH's sisters, my Bridesmaid used to be my MOH but stepped down and gave that position to my other girl. That was totally fine with me. Now a couple months later she is going wild and without provoking said to my FMIL that she wasn't going to be in my wedding anymore. So now I don't really know what to do because she didn't tell me directly. I also don't know that many other women to be able to replace her. So now I am stuck with two options, just have an uneven wedding party, one on my side two on his, or have a women that I haven't met or talked to before be in my wedding party, because she is his sister's bestfriend and has known her a very long time. I am so stressed over this whole thing and don't know what to do. If anyone has any input I am all ears! 😶

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Latest activity by Gwendolyn, on December 23, 2018 at 1:04 PM
  • Victoria
    Super May 2019
    Victoria ·
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    I would only have someone in your wedding party that you are close with! We’re having an uneven party, I have 4 BM FH has 2 GM.
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  • Abby
    VIP March 2019
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    I definitely wouldn't put someone in your bridal party that you don't know! That's a position you want to reserve for close friends or family. There's nothing wrong with having an uneven wedding party. You could have both groomsmen walk with your bridesmaid.
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  • Kealey
    Dedicated April 2019
    Kealey ·
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    Thanks for the input! That makes me feel less weird about having a smaller party
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  • Colleen
    Master September 2019
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    We have two grooms women 4 brides Maids. Also maybe you should check in on that one friend.make sure she is ok.
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  • Colleen
    Master September 2019
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    We are having the grooms women stand up front wit the groom. Then the matrons of honor walk down by then self then the JR VM wants to walk down with reg BM
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  • M
    Devoted May 2019
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    I had someone drop out of my wedding party and I was worried about it being uneven but it works out way better now. You don’t need the added expense and it saves you a headache! Only have people in your bridal party you love and couldn’t see your day without. Don’t add anyone you’re not close with!
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  • MrsV1027
    Master October 2018
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    Have you tried speaking directly to her about this?

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  • Kaleigh
    Super December 2019
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    There is nothing wrong with an uneven bridal party! I'm having 3 BM and my MOH. FH is having his Best Man, and then 4 groomsmen. So, no worries! But don't put someone else up there just for the sake of being even. Keep those closest to you by your side at the wedding.

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  • Victoria
    Beginner June 2019
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    I say have an uneven wedding party. I am having one because of family issues and I am totally fine with it. I wouldn't put someone I don't know well in my wedding party.

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  • Jen
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    It seems from reading comments on here that uneven wedding parties are totally common. I didn't have a wedding party at all and it was just fine - so I wouldn't let a small number worry you! Good luck!

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  • Kealey
    Dedicated April 2019
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    Thank you all! Very helpful!
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  • 💗
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    Have an uneven wedding party . What you could do is, have the MOH walk in by herself and the groomsmen walk in with the groom. At the end of the wedding, let the bridal party with the exception of the bridal party walk out in singles . During the reception for introductions introduce the groomsmen together and the MOH by herself . I have seven bridesmaids and five groomsman. I felt like getting two groomsman for the sake of numbers that we weren’t really close to , was going to make it seem fake and not authentic . I want to feel genuine on my day.
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  • Ania
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    I'm sorry this has happened to you, I wouldn't put anyone in my wedding if I don't know them that well. I seen many wedding where there wasn't even number of GMs and BMs.
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  • A
    Just Said Yes November 2018
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    It’s okay to have an uneven wedding party.. you should only have people who are close to you in your wedding party.. It’s unfair she didn’t tell you directly about her decision but don’t stress about this.. just concentrate on your wedding.. good thing she decided to give that position to the other girl because it would have been worse if she was a MOH.. MOH and bridesmaids are meant to be for people who actually are there for you
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  • Porterpoppin
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    I agree with everyone else. The last thing I would do is have someone I don't know in my wedding party. I'd go uneven for sure. I don't see anything wrong with it plus you only want people on your side that you know will be there for you.


    I would also talk to the rogue MOH personally and not take someone else's word for it. Maybe the situation can be resolved if y'all just talk?

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  • Emily
    Devoted August 2018
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    Hey Girl!

    I don't think it would be weird to have uneven parties. Plenty of people have done it! I would defiantly talk with her one on one to figure out what her plan is! Let her know whats important to you and if she is willing to back out then she doesn't belong up there with you on your big day!

    Either way, it will be a day you will never forget!

    Good Luck!

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  • Katie
    Devoted August 2019
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    I agree with everything pp said. In addition, since you said you haven't talked to your BM yet, maybe reach out to her. See if she'll talk to you and give you that information about her dropping out first hand. Sounds like she might just need a friend right now, too, not sure if you two had been close...
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  • Rachel
    Expert September 2019
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    As far as I know, we are having an uneven wedding party because I have 3 BMs and he has 2 GM. I'm just going to have the 2 non-MOHs walk on each arm of the 1 non-best man, and no bridal party dance, which is something I hadn't planned to do anyway.

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  • M
    Dedicated June 2019
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    Go with the uneven party. No sense in having randoms in your party. Don't be that desperate.

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  • Gwendolyn
    Dedicated September 2019
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    I’m having an uneven wedding party!! My FH is a certified social butterfly and I’m mostly close with just family, so I’m having 4 bridesmaids compared to 8 groomsmen. I’ve figured out a way for them to walk that makes it work fine. Don’t forget that your wedding is about you and your FH!! Not about what other people think. If someone doesn’t want to be you BM then just let it roll off your shoulders!! Some people can’t handle things that aren’t about them / are overwhelmed by the responsibility 🤷🏼‍♀️
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