Christina
Devoted February 2020

Bridesmaid Officiant

Christina, on February 20, 2019 at 5:10 PM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 13
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Would it be weird if I had one of my bridesmaids officiate the wedding? She's a notary public, so she can legally marry us in our state. I have another friend that is also a notary and has offered to officiate, but I'd prefer my cousin/bridesmaid.

My thought is that she would walk down the isle as a bridesmaid, have the same bridesmaid dress and all... But she would just got straight to where the officiant would stand instead of next to the maid of honor.

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Latest activity by Courtney, on July 17, 2020 at 11:27 PM
  • Sarah
    Master September 2019
    Sarah ·
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    I think this is fine, but I guess I don’t understand the significance of calling her a bridesmaid if she isn’t actually going to participate in the ceremony as a bridesmaid.
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  • Christina
    Devoted February 2020
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    Other than where she stands, her role outside the actual ceremony is the same. And in all of the wedding pictures, she'll match the other bridesmaids. She's actually planning the bridal shower and bachelorette party too. My sister/MOH isn't very reliable so my cousin ki da took over. Which we're all ok and happy with!
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  • Rachel
    Dedicated May 2020
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    I don’t see anything wrong with that! If that’s what you want, then go for it! I think it would be fine if she walked down normally as a bridesmaid and then right before you walk out, she moves a few feet over to the officiant’s spot.
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  • Summerbride77
    VIP July 2019
    Summerbride77 ·
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    I think is a great idea to have her officiate, but I do think it would look a little odd to have her walk down the aisle and then go to the spot. Would she be carrying a bouquet? Could just ask her to be the officiant during the ceremony rather than both bridesmaid and officiant? We’re having a friend as our main officiant: he’ll be dresses as a groomsman and is participate in the pre-wedding groomsmen events but during the wedding his one duty will be officiating.
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  • T
    Super June 2019
    Tiffany ·
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    I did this for a friends wedding it was fun!
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  • Alexandra
    VIP June 2019
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    This is exactly what we’re doing! Our friend is our officiant but as far as pre-wedding events and pictures go, he’s going to be just like a groomsman.
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  • Tara
    Master May 2020
    Tara ·
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    I think it’s cool, knocking two birds out with one stone.
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  • Bridget
    Devoted October 2019
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    I think it would make it special!!
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  • Christina
    Devoted February 2020
    Christina ·
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    LMAO... My cousin just said her friend offered to do it dressed as Deadpool. We're having a Deadpool cake topper and ring pops as favors. Deadpool was our first movie date and our first Valentine's day.
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  • Daniela
    Beginner August 2020
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    Did you end up doing that?? How did it go?? Our original officiant bailed on us- so my future sister in law offered to do it since she’s ordained (online 😊). She is also one of my bridesmaids and I was thinking the same as you - have her walk down like a bridesmaid but go straight to the podium. I actually love the idea of her doing it because she knows both of us so well, and we are very close. It would be personal. And I was thinking she could have a special accessory or headpiece to make her stand out as the officiant
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  • Christina
    Devoted February 2020
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    We did! It was perfect. We didn't have a maid of honor or best man, so the walking order was flexible. We had the groomsmen come from the side instead of walking down the isle. And the bridesmaids walk one by one. We had out officiant/bridesmaid walk last, hand her bouquet to the bridesmaid before her, then go to the officiant spot. After the I Dos, she simply stepped over to stand with the bridesmaids so she's out of the way for the first kiss pictures, and then exited with the bridesmaids.

    If it means something to you, then I say go for it! It saves you the money on hiring someone and it meant so much to my cousin/officiant that she got to play an extra special part in our big day. She actually officiated at my sister's wedding as well, so it meant a lot to both of us that she could do the same for me.

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  • Sexypoodle
    Master October 2021
    Sexypoodle ·
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    I think it’s great! When it comes to weddings, it’s about what’s meaningful. Not what looks “right” or may seem “odd”. Anyone can do a cookie-cutter wedding, where all ideas have been seen/done over and over (and over). But I appreciate the uniqueness and unexpected personal touches the best.
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  • Courtney
    Master December 2019
    Courtney ·
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    We did something similar. My husband couldn't decide on a best man when one of them had expressed marrying us. So our officiant was an honorary groomsman and did a heck of a job.

    For attire, he wore the inverse as the groomsmen. Still within the aesthetic but stood out a little.

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