Bridesmaid obligations for a Destination wedding

I think ypur options are fare...or if they pay to get there....thatll be fine as well. That's a gift alone...traveling is pricey

I wouldn't pay for travel. Maybe their dresses. I think your plan is fair. I did a destination wedding and the bride paid for nothing except our brunch the morning off and really it was her mom lol.

View Quoted Comment Yes traveling can be pricey. I want to make it as cost effective as possible and give everyone over a year to make payments on everything.

View Quoted Comment Oh then that's perfect

View Quoted Comment Wow so what did you do about hair and makeup? Was the price of your dress fair??

View Quoted Comment Thanks! I really appreciate the advice!

View Quoted Comment I am black so I had my hair dresser at the time do my hair bc I don't trust Judy anyone and everyone else was white lol. This wedding was like 10 years ago so I don't know any time I've been a bridesmaid I just figured I'd do whatever the bride asks and it's funny when I see posts about how brides are being difficult and arguing sometimes not very expensive bridesmaid dresses in my opinion. All I know is that most Brides that I have been a bridesmaid for have been fairly lenient and whatever kind of style dress we want or anything like that maybe they wanted a certain color. We all went to a salon so the other girls and a mother of the bride could get their hair done so I did pay for makeup there. I just assumed as a bridesmaid you've got to pay somewhat of a decent amount to be a part of someone's wedding day. But also the ladies I've been a bridesmaid for are not exactly wealthy either so I understand that they couldn't pay for my dress, makeup and hair. I guess to me if you ask me being your wedding and he told me to destination wedding my mind would figure that I would need to make accommodations for that because I know that the bride it's also spending a lot on her wedding so I guess I wouldn't expect for her to pay for me to travel for her wedding. If it's too expensive for them then they can just be a guest. I think if you pay for their makeup considering how much makeup cost especially depending on where you go in Miami I believe that's fair enough.

View Quoted Comment Thanks for your advice! I’m a black woman also and I agree with you! I don’t want just anyone in my head. I’ve done some research and found a couple of hairstylists and makeup artists in the area (that have brown skin like me). I’m planning a trip down there to tour the venue and have hair/makeup trials. That way I can see if I can save a bit of money with local vendors.

View Quoted Comment I think you said your wedding was in Miami so the good thing is that there are so many different cultures there that you can definitely find a hair salon that can cater to you and your bridesmaids. I would just maybe think of what you can help out with and if you can get deals on group flights and stuff like that and of course make the offer but also realize you have your wedding to plan to sew like I said maybe at best I would do their makeup but if you do there dresses maybe look at azazie or something that way it's much more cost-effective. Probably every bridesmaid's dress I've ever owned has been over $100.

It's typical they pay for their dresses, hotel & flight but they should be able to shop around and not be required to fly specific flights or stay at specific hotels in case they can find better deals or use points.

View Quoted Comment I plan on obtaining group rates for flights and hotels. I will of course give everyone the option to fly and stay with whoever they wish to. I plan on giving everyone information on nearby hotels with pricing information.

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I think it's fine to ask the girls to pay for their own travel & accommodations, and give them a few options! It's great you're doing research.

This absolutely seems reasonable. I did not have a destination wedding, but all of my bridesmaids lived in different cities across the US and had to travel to me. I paid for hair, makeup, and jewelry, and they paid for dresses, travel, and accommodation. If you want your bridesmaids to stay in the same hotel as you, then you would probably need to significantly contribute to that. But if you're ok with them staying wherever, then you would not need to cover any of that cost.

When I was a bridesmaid, I paid flights for my fiance and myself to Florida, my dress and my nails. The bride grabbed night out food and drinks for bridal party, she also paid for make up. When you say yes to being a bm, there is going to be costs involved. We stayed at a friend's house and got a hotel for our play time in disneyworld