Bridesmaid Not Participating

I feel like I may have a similar situation with my sister... unfortunately. I have decided that I am going to be assertive in regards to treating my wedding and myself with respect. I feel you can express to her your needs while acknowledging how she may be busy. I would say give her a timeline and she doesn’t appear to interested.. drop her. You shouldn’t feel stressed on your day.

Does she respond if you text her separately? Some people hate group texts and don’t respond in them (or she may even have muted the conversation and not realized you need her input). I wouldn’t stress about the shoes; she really doesn’t need them until the wedding day. Did she agree to pay for hair and makeup? If you didn’t ask her if she wanted this service ahead of time, her non response could mean she’s not able to pay. If you’re requiring the hair/makeup, you need to cover those costs for your girls. I’d personally reach out to her with a phone call to get the information you need from her.

View Quoted Comment She does not respond to me separately; however, she asked me if she could be in it. Also, as far as hair & makeup— I am covering half the costs for everyone. The total amount that the gurus have to spend to be in the wedding (hair/makeup, shoes, fabric and dress) is $265.

View Quoted Comment I’d give her a hard deadline in a separate text or through a phone call when you need her half of the HMU. If she doesn’t come up with it, then she won’t receive the services. And I know $265 doesn’t seem like much in the grand scheme of the wedding world, but that may be a hard number for her personal budget.

I would talk to her on the sideand ask get can she continue to afford to be a bridesmaid and if so then you need her to participate in the group discussions and respond to messages.

Does she not have the money but is too embarrassed to say? It happens unfortunately. I had the same issue with one mine I sympathize.

I would just let her know that she is welcome to attend as a guest but that she is no longer a bridesmaid then I would remove her from any group messaging she is in.