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Bridesmaid not ordering dresses

Laura, on November 29, 2019 at 4:48 PM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 7

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So all of my bridesmaids have not ordered their dresses. It took me three months to have them even try them on. They finally all agreed at who will get what dress. Now I actually need them to all go back to order the dresses. Again I either here no responses from my texts or if I call them it is the same answer "I will go this week" but they do not. We are now starting to run out of time as we have 5 months before the wedding. I was told from the lady said some of the styles can take anywhere from 4 weeks to 4 months so it's best to get them now as they will also have to get fittings.

I would have met them all together to do some sort of dress shopping however I live out of state so I cannot be there to assist further.
I get we are all busy and have kids as I am in the same boat. However this is getting annoying and frustrating and not sure what to do.
My ladies are not responsible for anything else. There will be no shower or bachelorette party to help with. All they need to do is buy the dresses and show up. I do not want to lose it and get mad at them but my annoyance is building.
Any advice on how to handle before I lose my frustration in them?

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Latest activity by Laura, on December 2, 2019 at 2:52 PM

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Sarah · on November 29, 2019 at 4:51 PM
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“The consultant at the dress shop has made me aware that in order to guarantee the dresses arrive in time for the wedding they must be ordered by x” and then let it go. Either they’ll each get the dress on time or they’ll be a guest.
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Legend November 2019
Caytlyn · on November 29, 2019 at 4:57 PM
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Make them aware of the deadline and then let it go. You can’t babysit adults.
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Master November 2020
Kristen · on November 29, 2019 at 5:06 PM
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I agree with the pp above and maybe even add when your dress is ordered please text me and let me know. If they do not have their dress or they need to pay a rush order that is on them. If they cannot get it in time then I would have a back up plan for that.
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Master December 2019
Cher Horowitz · on November 29, 2019 at 5:22 PM
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I agree with PPs. If they don't buy the dress, they'll just have to attend as guests
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Master October 2019
Laura · on November 29, 2019 at 5:35 PM
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My bridesmaid did the same thing, drug her feet until it was to late to get the dress we agreed on. I had to scramble to find her a dress with less than a month to go.
from experience I should have just had her as a guest. She nearly derailed the wedding day
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Legend June 2019
Melle · on November 29, 2019 at 5:37 PM
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I know what you mean. It's annoying to feel like if this is one of the only things for them to do, why can't they just do it? But like PP said, we can't babysit adults.
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Laura · on December 2, 2019 at 2:52 PM
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Thanks everyone. I called the place and got the dates the dresses are to be expected to arrive. I then gave the girls a date they need to purchase by without having to incur rush fees and told them to contact me after they ordered their dress. I left it at that and plan on not contacting again about this subject. If one of them comes to me saying they don't have the dress for the wedding I will let them know they can be apart of the day by being a guest instead. Never figured this would be so hard as I was in two of my bridesmaids weddings before and I never did this to them nor did any of their other girls. Guess you can't expect anyone to return the favor.
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