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Amina
Dedicated January 2020

Bridesmaid mistake

Amina, on November 3, 2019 at 5:50 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 3
So I’ve posted here quite a bit about my troubles with a few of my bridesmaids. Mostly my FH’s sister, FH’s brothers gf and his cousins gf. After speaking with FSIL I think we’re good, she’s just very immature and caught up in a toxic relationship right now so i’ll just hope when she gets older she figures things out. Spoke with cousin’s gf who I was actually the closest with as she lived with me and we had an open and honest conversation. Turns out brothers gf doesn’t really care for me or sees me really as a friend and doesn’t care to try to make it better. Cousins gf told her that she spoke with me and thought it was important that I know how brothers gf really felt and suggested she talk to me herself and she just said okay and that it wasn’t that important. At this point, I have 9 other girls who actually care and only because she’s FBIL’s gf is why i’ll be keeping her in the party, 2 months out is too late to change things anyway. I’ll stay cordial when I’m around her but i’ve given up thinking we could actually be good friends one day. It just sucks because once cousins gf came in the picture I really thought we were getting closer but I guess I was wrong. Since FH’s family is really close and we see them all the time it might be awkward having to be around her a lot but I would rather spend my time with people who actually care about me not someone who is fake and doesn’t care about me at all

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Latest activity by Sinéad, on November 6, 2019 at 9:58 AM
  • Carnysha
    Dedicated July 2020
    Carnysha ·
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    I can relate. My furture SIL is one of my bridesmaids but we are also trying to rebuild our relationship. We used to be real cool and a lot of things escalated which caused us to stop talking for awhile. Honestly the only reason she's in it is because of him. I'm trying my best to be cordial and call or text her to see hows shes doing and most times I get short answers. Its frustrating and I really want to take my proposal back but i feel it would cause more harm than good. :\
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  • Cristy
    Master May 2021
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    I'm glad to hear that at least some of the drama is smoothing out! You're almost there!! Now that you have this information, would you consider talking to BILs gf? Maybe offering to let her step down, if that's what she wants? I mean, if she doesn't like you, why did she accept your bridesmaid proposal? I would never be a bridesmaid for someone I didn't like!! That's just crazy! I understand why you don't want to do anything at this late date. Probably better not to rock the boat, especially after the ride you've had! But it's still baffling to me.

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  • Sinéad
    WeddingWire Administrator January 2025
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    Hey Amina! I'm so sorry that you are having to go through this with your bridesmaids. I truly hope that you will be able to concentrate on how excited you are for your wedding and celebrate with those close to you!

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