Bridesmaid missing bridal shower for boyfriend

I don't think you're wrong at all to feel disappointed (especially since you asked ahead of time about available dates), but she's also not required to attend your bridal shower. I think it would be wrong to ask her to reschedule her plans. That particular weekend might have worked out best for her boyfriend and his family for her to meet them, and while I agree that she could have told his family that she already had plans for that weekend, she also has her own life events going on. Take the time to process your emotions over it, and then try to let it go and enjoy your bridal shower!

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Agree, I would be disappointed and probably a little hurt too but I'd try to let it go. Are you sure she could've done this any other weekend, or is it possible that with everyone's schedules this was the only opportunity for her to meet his parents anytime soon? She may have been faced with a pretty tough choice if so, as I'm sure she wants to be there to support you but also wants to present herself well to her new boyfriend's family and show them that meeting them is a priority for her. The above is great advice: "Take the time to process your emotions over it, and then try to let it go and enjoy your bridal shower!"

I agree with the previous posts. It’s completely natural to feel disappointed she won’t be making your shower; but pre-wedding events are certainly not mandatory for anyone, including your wedding party. As exciting as your wedding is to you, you have to remember that your friends and family also have important events going on in their lives, which they should not be expected to put on hold. Obviously meeting the new boyfriend’s parents is an important event in your friends life- the best thing you can do is tell her she will be missed, but you understand and are happy for her.