Bridesmaid makeup

No it isn't a thing or at least it shouldn't be. I gave my girls the option to have their hair and makeup done professionally. All, but one is having their hair done professionally and 3 of them are doing their one makeup. My only request when for makeup was don't look like a clown or like you are going to a goth wedding.

Im letting people choose what they feel comfortable with. Some of my BMs wear makeup every day and others never wear makeup so I think that makes a difference in everyone’s comfort level with being made up

Right! My sister wears fairly heavy makeup and will likely experiment with something funky because that's her. My other sister doesn't own any makeup. Like not even lip gloss. Lol. MOH is right in the middle of the two. I just couldn't imagine making them all happy by telling them how to make their face look. But then sometimes I'm like man, maybe I'm doing this bride thing all wrong. Am I supposed to care about this? Hahaha.

Totally agree with you! I don't understand people who tell their girls what shoes to wear, makeup, jewelry, just seems so crazy to me. I let my girls pick their own dresses and I definitely don't care what shoes or makeup they want to wear lol

View Quoted Comment This!!! My fiancé’s sister is a BM, and has been in AT LEAST 6 weddings. She texted me “what color shoes, how do you want my hair, what nail color, what color jewelery?” And I told her “girl, I am judging ALL of your friends....” lol.

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Yesss!!!! Hahaha. This is the same with my MOH. She's been in several weddings and has told me horror stories. It's sweet to check I guess? But honestly every time I just tell her "girl, I am not that bride."

She asked me like three months ago if I cared if she cut her hair!!! Lol.

I've never heard of that being specified, unless the bride pays for hair and makeup and is super nit picky. I would just let them do their own thing! That's what I'm doing.

It used to be a big "thing" everything had to match head to toe. Luckily, todays brides are more laid back , than in days gone by ha ha.

After being in several regulated weddings, im just giving them options.
Right now the dresses match , because they all liked them. If they try them on and change their minds, I will send them back no problem.
Same with shoes, makeup and jewelry. I just want them to feel beautiful and have a great time

I told my girls to do whatever they want with hair and makeup. They are all wearing different dresses too. I want them to feel comfortable and like what they have. I don't wanna force them into something they don't like

Nooooo, my only request was that we all do our own makeup or each other’s instead of going somewhere to have it done (I’m renting a bridal suite for the bridal party to get done together) & told my MOH just keep your eye makeup natural because she said she’s not comfortable doing dramatic looks, when she asked what I wanted. I don’t really care what colors they wear, they all have different looks so as long as their comfortable is what matters.

Definitely not a thing. Also, what looks good on one skin tone may look horrendous on another. I told my girls that they all look wonderful on a daily basis and I trust them to look presentable on their own and am not forcing hair or makeup on them

I’m having all of my girls’ hair done by my hair stylist, but are letting them do their own makeup. I think that their makeup style should go with their personality and what they feel comfortable with, as long as it’s not far out there. It gets rather expensive for brides! We chose shoes that worked for all of the girls and I’m giving matching jewelry as part of their MOH/BM gifts. I think it just depends on the dynamic and mix of your girls, but they should have a little say in some aspects of the way they look on that day.

My bridesmaids will all have the same look done by the same makeup artist. Depends on how "extra" the bride is lol. My girls were all fine with this and since it's something I chose I paid.

Sometimes the bride shows the makeup artist pictures like from Pinterest of how you would like the bridemaids makeup to look. If you have a look you’re going for, then have reference photos.

All 4 of my girls are getting their hair done with my people because they all wanted to have that 1950's look.. and for makeup 3 out of 4 are getting it done also and they kept asking how they should do their makeup, so I just said they can bring their own inspo pictures that they like and they will be comfortable in. 🤷‍♀️

People look different in different colors.

I've *heard* of this, but since I'm unlikely to hire a HMUA, I couldn't possibly ask my bp to wear all the same makeup. (Plus, I've got a mixed gender party.)

And shoes are so personal!

I guess I just don't understand wanting your friends - whom you supposedly love for their individuality - to all look exactly the same!

Definitely not a thing....lol

I have been in a lot of weddings, over a lot of years. Every now and then a ride, or a MOB, gets all specific about hair, including its length, color and style, and who does it, and make-up and accessories. Each time, they have turned out to be control freaks about all aspects of their wedding. They want everybody to be in a same time group chat, every 2 weeks...for 12-18 months. Or they have fits and tantrums and threaten to throw people out, for not having ordered their gown at 9-8-7 months when she gave them deadlines. Though every one but them has been a BM or MOH before, and tells her, dresses need to be ordered in the last 4 months, come in 2-10 weeks, and the place she wants, usually 2-4 weeks. Want mandatory attendance at her dress shopping, set out demands for what she wants in a shower, which she sees as a reasonable $300-1,000 from each person. And a multiday bachelorette. And is upset when everyone does not volunteer to be a hostess. . . When I hear this stuff before saying yes, I decline. But sometimes, it doesn't. And other ladies and I talk about stuff before accepting, and she is all about, so laid back and easy. Then she gets into watching shows and reading forums, and this super demanding, well I am giving it to you as a gift so you have to do it because it is my day...monster ego appears. Cut off 20" of my black hair and dye it blond and have it permed to match her 1920's Gatsby look? No. All BM to wear 5 inch or higher platforms to be taller than bride, so she won't feel too tall , and she wants 3" pair of heels. 4 busty women, of 5 and she wants strapless dresses that no one can make stay up, having straps cut off a dress everyone agreed to? And a few bought? . . In fact, I keep reading , on here, well if a bride wants to make you wear your hair all the same or same jewelry, hers not yours, she has to pay for it. Well, news flash: BM are not models or actresses, paid a few hundred an hour, to transform themselves into what an advertiser or film producer or dress designer wants. They are friends and family, being honored ( not treated like royal subjects) by the bride. They agree to wear a dress in a reasonable budget, and to order it in time to have it for wedding day, not just any old time the bride wants in the previous year. And though the individual BM may accept or agree to pro services a bride offered, she also may decline. And wear her hair, make-up, and jewelry as she wants, as long as it is appropriate to the occasion( no combat boots with a gown.) Every bride I know who has taken the dictatorial route has either backed down after people threatened to quit, telling her she was pushing too much, and showing etiquette books that state, she is way off base. Or many or the whole BP has quit. And not ever speaking again.