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Beginner October 2019

Bridesmaid mad she wasn't invited

Breeanna, on December 29, 2018 at 10:45 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 8
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Help! One of bridesmaids that is also my future brother in laws fiancee is very upset that she wasn't invited to my first appointment to try on wedding dresses. Only 4 people went with me, my mom, my MOH, and 2 other bridesmaids. 3 other bridesmaids didnt go including her. I had went to a bunch of bridal shows after I got engaged and made a lot of appointments to try on wedding dresses. My very first appointment, I found my dress that I love so much. I didnt think I would find it the first time but I did. I have now been ghosted for about a month from her but didn't know why. Finally asked what was up yesterday and she said she is upset and mad she didnt get an invite. I never purposely didnt invite her. The other girls went with me to the bridal show that she couldnt go to. I had 5 seats in my car and it just worked out and we went. I had like 6 other dress appointments in the future. None of the other bridesmaids are mad. But now she doesn't even want to be in the wedding anymore. She feels unwelcomed. She said maybe I dont be long in the wedding because I didnt even get to go. She feels like she was only invited because her fiance is the best man because he is the brother. I have apologized now and said i never meant to not invite her and I'm sorry shes upset. There are so many other things to do still for the wedding. Need some advice.

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Latest activity by Jenna, on December 31, 2018 at 2:38 PM
  • Kenisha
    Champion June 2019
    Kenisha ·
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    I mean, if you’ve already talked to her about it there’s not much more you can do. If you continue having her in your bridal party, do you really want to deal with her drama?
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  • Fwbride
    Super July 2024
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    You did all you can do at this point it’s up to her to be an adult and accept your apology. And if she doesn’t then good riddens.
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  • Alyssa
    Master December 2019
    Alyssa ·
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    I think just watch and see what happens at next “wedding” activity

    invite her and take it from there
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  • Maren
    Champion October 2021
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    Hi BreeAnna! Hmm I am sorry you are dealing with this. That's good that you've talked it out and hopefully she will accept your apology, come around, moving forward as your bridesmaid soon. Smiley heart


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  • Rachel
    Super July 2019
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    It might take reaching out to her and inviting her to be part of another wedding decision you have coming up. Sometimes one apology isn’t enough for some people. Just try to keep her in the loop and I’m sure she’ll come around.
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  • Sunshine
    Expert January 2019
    Sunshine ·
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    She needs to stop being a baby and get over it. You are under no obligation to invite anyone to look at dresses with you! If she’s going to ghost you over something so unimportant, after you apologized, which was going above and beyond, then that’s just ridiculous. Unless she’s like 15 years old, this reaction is rude and just straight drama.
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  • Rayna
    Devoted July 2019
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    Ugh. Life isn’t an episode of “Say Yes to the Dress.” Buying a wedding dress can be a tedious process and this pressure to treat it like it’s a girls day for dress up is annoying. She wasn’t intentionally excluded and you apologized. I wouldn’t give this situation anymore attention cause that’s clearly what she is after. Continue on with your planning and extend invitations as you would normally.
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  • Jenna
    Super October 2019
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    I would just let it be and let her decide if she wants to be in the wedding or not. I only invited 1 out of 5 of my bridesmaids to dress shopping for two reasons: two of the shops limited me to 3 guests due to space, and truthfully I didn't want a huge crowd there. None of them were offended but if they were, I would apologize for hurting their feelings and hope that they understand the situation. It's not mandatory at all that you invite anyone to dress shopping and there's not much more you can do if she doesn't get that.

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